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I too said that he is most probably incapable of it. Some men simply cannot manage words, either verbal or written. Its like an incapacity. Its not that they dont want to, its that they simply dont know how to. Their brains simply dont know how to process it. Like some people cant read maps, and if they try to navigate they stuff it up completely.
Emotional intelligence is something that is learned, and from family primarily. Some people have childhoods where its not developed.
But, some of the men who are really good with words cannot be trusted. The words "I love you" can roll off their tongues, but its no guarantee that they do.
So, just lap up those massages, and drop hints about things that you would like done for you, since he shows love through acts of service.
I didnt see your original question but im sorry he made you feel sad and cry. Sounds like you have a very special daughter. Happy birthday xx
I'd prefer a massage over a card any day. I'm 7 months pregnant and begging my husband for even a quick foot rub and he refuses to give me one
In concentrating on the things he does do maybe also be thankful that the card was a step in the right direction and thank him for it. He is more likely to buy another card if he feels appreciated for it. It may take time but maybe you guys could work on growing each other’s emotional intelligence, yours may be good but he can see he grows with you then. I think if he found some emotional intelligence and felt appreciated for the card in a few years he may be able to put them together
I saw your question and there was a few replies can't see why it would get deleted there was nothing nasty? Very strange. I wrote in it basically what u said that he's just not capable but sounds like he did try and loves u just not capable in that area or good with words. I wrote to ask for something material next time he might be better with that xxx