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I'm pregnant with my 7th child and no one is happy for me.... I'm sick of being told to 'get a tv'.... What's wrong with having a big family these days?

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To put it frankly -people do not care that much about your life. People around you are generally happy for the first one or two and after that they just dont care anymore.
If they are relatives they think of it as more money for them if they want to take the kids anywhere or buy presents or if wanting to babysit.
Some people think the world is already too overpopulated and think its selfish to have so many offspring.
Some people put themselves in your shoes and think how the heck could anyone afford that many children
Some may be jealous.

You say "but it should be about love and rainbows and happiness" but life isnt lived in the realm of ideals.

There are many different reasons people may not be as estatic as you are when you announce your 7th pregnancy. But really, you shouldnt care. People are always going to have conflicting opinions about everything you do in life so i wouldnt worry about them and just do you how you want :)

Congratulations. As long as your able to provide for them, I say have as many as you like :)

must be a slow day all the old posts geting bumped up.

I have 7. We tried to stop after 3, but #4 came along. #5 we planned. Then, we thought I'd started "the change." Pop, pop 2 more right in a row. People joke, but we have a happy, loving family. We do our best to economize, budget, and re-use/recycle as much as we can. Big families are different than small ones, but just as special.

I guess people wonder how you manage and unfortunately because the majority of us struggle with 1, 2 or 3 kids we think you can't possibly be providing good opportunities for your kids or spending quality time with each one. Also there is the expense side most women work outside the home just to afford a couple of kids these days.

I also think that after 3-4 kids there should be no govt benefits. You want them, that’s fine but pay for them yourselves. Obviously there should be discretion applied for people who have sextuplets or something!
My SIL has never worked a day in her life, nor has her husband and they have 7. All spaced about 3-4 years apart. This experience has probably coloured my views on the subject. They get a huge amount of $$ from govt for doing nothing and we both work our backsides off with 2 kids and have sfa ‘luxuries ‘ while they have the latest and greatest doing nothing. And their eldest are proudly continuing their parents example. Sad.

 This is what I tend to see too. I do know one very wealthy family with 5 children (the parents own a very successful company which they built from the ground up) but all the other large families I know consider themselves to be “Aussie battlers” - ie dole bludgers who expect everyone else to pay for their “difficult circumstances”. We have exactly the number of children we can comfortably afford and our children have the benefit of not having to share our attention with a horde of siblings. Luckily we never wanted a large family because it looks awful to me.
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I think it’s irresponsible in this day and age to have so many kids. Impacts on environment etc... But each to their own, that’s my opinion and I also respect that others have free choice.

Well i personally would never have that many, id be in a straight jacket lol

congratulations, as long as you are happy, who cares

I don't really care. maybe other people don't actually care either, but they are sick of you going on about it and expecting everyone to be jumping all over the place with excitement for your 7th kid. I know this is an old post, but I just get annoyed at people who want everyone else to be amazed at what they are doing with their lives. your just doing what other people are doing, having a family. no one expects a congrats after getting their 7th job or moving to their 7th house or buying their 7th car, and if you had 7 dogs people would probably think you were a nutter. Just live your life and don't expect people to praise you for your choices.

Does the planet think you should have 7 kids? That's the only reason I judge stupidly large families. Think of all the resources your kids are going to go through all for your own selfish reasons.

 So you have no kids then? Because your kids are going to burn through resources as well. If you didnt have kids other people could have more. How selfish of you.
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 I'm not having kids
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 poor kids
the older ones will be mini slaves

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 ^ if you arent having kids hunni- find something better to do with all your free time other than trolling a website designed for MOTHERS. You know- become a productive member of society and quit wasting the air you breathe.
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 I commented on this post. I have 7 children. We use less energy and make less waste than the average family of 4. We compost, recycle, conserve. We thrift shop, hand down, upcycle. My electric bill is 30% or more lower than most of my neighbors. My water usage was half that of my sister and her family (4 people total). I'm raising environmentally conscious, globally minded children. We understand having a large family means being able to support them, in ways beyond the financial.
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 ^ (to the environmentally responsible parent) if more families followed your lead then I think people would have less of an issue with large families. Unfortunately we seem to see more of the irresponsible, ‘poor me’, resource hungry, Centrelink-dependent, selfish parents raising kids who will repeat the cycle. Probably because ‘those’ families love the attention from Today Tonight/ACA etc
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The only reason people have big families is for the money. Why work when you can earn more by pushing out a few more kids. The more kids the cheaper it is. You already have all the clothes and toys needed. Only need to buy a few things here and there.

Ha I think most people struggle with 2-3 and then probably think, how the hell do they manage with 7 without some sort of assistance, unless you are fortunate enough to be doing well.

I found the same and i only have three. The main thing is that you,your husband/partner and other kids are excited. I think you are amazing and am in awe of you-i love my kids so much but i just couldn't handle (or afford) any more.

I noticed this aswell even know it was only #2, people are less happy each time. Im now pregnant with #3 and 8 havent bother to tell anyone yet. And we wont be announing this one at all just telling immediate family only.

 Congrats on number 3
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 Thankyou 😀
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