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I think the best thing you can do is teach him empathy. People who abuse/bully others lack empathy. Books, sad kid movies, even sad news stories, explain them to him, get him to imagine himself going through that and ask how it makes him feel. Get him some little pets so he can learn love and loss. This plus the psych, lots of love and reassurance and steady discipline when he needs it.
Do you have evidence of the abuse? When my brother became more like our father, I got put some old pictures and showed him the future of himself. There my mom and I were with matching broken noses. She had stitches on her face and I had a broken wrist and a bald spot where handfuls of my hair had been ripped out. She was sporting a baby bump that would grow to be him. My little sister is next to me, hiding be hind me a little. She looks worse than any of us because she is covered in my blood. It's matted in her hair and her white dress is stiff and brown woth it. Her eyes are pure terror. I was on top.of her protecting her, so I know she was unharmed, but all that blood... We are on the curb outside the hospital with 2 police men, being hearded off to a new life in secret, because they are afraI'd the next time they show up, we won need a hospital. It was 11 years before he found us and got visitation rights to my little bro. When, he was 13 he took a swing at our mom and he needed to see the truth.
Can you talk to him about it? It could be that he is finding the situation stressful and acting out because of if rather than learning from his dad.
Here's what you should do.... Use the more info box!
I do not want my son to turn out like his father and think that that is how life is.
My partner (soon to be husband) is a great role model but my ex has decided to tell my son not to listen to him or take his advice as he isnt his real dad