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Personal experiences on growing up without one parent

I had both my parents around my whole life. I’m very lucky. A friend has recently cut her baby’s father off after he chose a very new relationship - just over a month - over seeing or knowing his child. I want to help support my friend and her baby as much as I can. What advise does everyone have? What is it like to grow up without one parent?


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I can’t really give you any advice but I can tell you what my experience was like. My parents split up when I was 6. He was a violent alcoholic and it was the best decision for us all. I last saw him 30 years ago, he passed away 9 years ago. I can’t say I missed out on anything by not having him around. My mum was a really good mother and made sure I was well taken care of. I also had my grandparents near by so my grandfather stepped in as a male role model. It didn’t bother me that he wasn’t around, I remember what it was like living with him,

 I think having a positive male role model is super important
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OP I’m very sorry you had to go through all of that at such a young age. Your mother sounds like an incredibly strong woman.

Thank you. Yes I agree they should have positive male role models. Her brother and father have both stepped in and my hubby will also. We are basically sisters.

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Having your dad is so important. I needed mine but he died. I made shit decisions. I needed protecting. I needed my dad to help me grow. I still suffer to this day.

OP I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad a couple of years ago but was so grateful to have him until adulthood. The pain of losing a parent is one that never goes away.
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Encourage your friend to keep her daughters father involved as much as possible. Not having my father around for 10 years effected me greatly, I didn’t realise it till I started dating my partner.. I depended on him a lot to make me happy and love me that way I wanted.
Had to take a step back to realise what I was doing and took time for me to understand why I was like that.

You are a great friend, continue doing what you are doing!

Not me personally but my hubby. He grew up without a mother. She was a drug addict and left when he was a baby. He is such a wonderful man but I would be lying if I said it hasn't affected him. Especially now since we have children he doesn't understand how his mum couldn't love her children. It hasn't affected him too much but I know it gets to him sometimes.