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What's your experience with circumcised willies?

I was with friends recently getting our kids changed after swimming, and I was surprised to see that 3 of the 4 boys there were circumcised. The mum with the uncircumcised boy pointed this out, and said they had considered having it done, but decided not to. I haven't got boys, but I always thought circumcision wasn't really done, but my friends all seemed to think it was perfectly normal. I know my brothers aren't circumcised, and my husband isn't either. I was wondering what everyone's personal experience with circumcision is? Have your partners or previous sexual partners had it done? If you have sons, did you get them circumcised? Do you know whether any other family members have had it done?

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LEAVE CHILDREN'S GENITALS ALONE

 Umm bit of an overreaction there
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 Nothing overreacting about protecting innocent boys from genital mutilation!!!
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 I concur. It's disgusting.
Would you be saying that if someone took a scalpel to your c**t?

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if a guy looked at my flaps and was like "you know its much more hygienic to that them trimmed up a bit, less risk of STIs and obviously id find it more sexually appealing, and also you should do that to your daughters so that she's more sexually appealing and clean, id definitely hit them in the dick! why are parents so hellbent on mutilating their gorgeous children because they have warped views on cosmetic and cleanliness reasons for circumcision. Hey guess whats cleaner? TEACHING YOUR SONS TO WASH THEIR OWN PRIVATE PARTS!

 A little louder for the people in the back 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
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 Who said anyone actually says anything to sexual partners about how their dicks look? It’s an anonymous sharing forum here in which everyone is giving opinions.
And how is circumcision the same as genital mutilation?

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 I've been with a guy who was obviously never taught to pull his foreskin back to clean it, but as an adult really should have known better. I discovered this after fiddling with him and realising my hand smelt like an old pub urinal. I held my hand up to his nose and let him know exactly what I thought...
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 How is it not mutilation? You are removing part of their penis without their consent
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No one I know is circumcised, neither are my sons or my husband, or any of my friends sons. Iv never even considered it for my boys

Definitely find it cleaner and far more appealing in a sexual partner.

 But your son will never be your sexual partner
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 Otherwise we have some seriously messed up mothers who need their sons removed from their care
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I have had 2 male relatives suffer from phimosis and be circumcised at an older age, which is a more involved surgery than on a baby. So I got my son done when he was 3 weeks old. He had local anaesthetic and didn’t cry at all. It was straightforward and healed well. My husband is also done as are all the males in our families. But I would absolutely say it’s personal choice. No judgement!!

 My boy had phimosis. It literally was not a complicated surgery.And he didn't cry either. It was straightforward and healed well.
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I’ve never been with a circumcised man. My sons aren’t circumcised. My mother said neither are my brothers. I’ve only known a few men who are. There was no medical reason to get it done. Cosmetically it doesn’t matter. If they want it done for looks when they are adults they can do it, just like if my daughter wasn’t happy with her breasts when they develop and she wanted implants. I’m not going to force my preference on my children. I find it sick when people do, like you aren’t the one who will be fu****g your son so why do you care what they “look” like.

 Often it isn’t done for cosmetic reasons but health reaons
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 Babies are done for cosmetic reasons. Health reasons would only be if there’s an infection or the foreskin it too tight. It’s fu****g sick how people mutilate their sons body for no real medical reason.
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 ^ not necessarily true. Sometimes babies are done as a preventative to health issues later in life, because it’s a much more painful procedure as an older boy or an adult. My Ob was very pro circumcision for this reason. We declined though.
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 My son was done at 10 for medical reasons, he said it didn't hurt after the first day. And I work with a lass who's 18 year old was done medical reasons also. Spinal block during procedure and nil pain afterwards during healing
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 ^That may be, but some doctors aren’t recommending it for newborns for cosmetic reasons, but potential health ones.
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 In some circumstances but only certain ones. Not many or most. Thats why most hospitals wont do it now
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 ^ my point being the doctors who (even though few) aren’t doing it for comsetic reasons as the responder a few up suggested.
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 If it is done because of infection or the foreskin being too tight, that’s health reasons. If your doctor recommends it just as a “preventative” why don’t you get their wisdom teeth removed and their appendix out just to prevent risk of infection or removal at a later date? It isn’t anything more than purely cosmetic when they do a baby boys circumcision.
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 My mum always said they had my brother circumcised because the hole where urine exits was not central and it would have without a doubt caused infections and uti’s so it was preventative.
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 ^^OMG. I didn’t say I agree with it. I said why some doctors do it. Maybe you should put forth your arguments to them, not me. I actually said we chose not to have my son done.
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 Doing something to prevent health issues later isnt cosmetic. My doctor wanted to do it for my son, because he believed in the preventative advantages. He had no interest in the cosmetic. WHy would he? He was a strong advocate for it, but we refuse do it anyway. Of course, many parents are about the cosmetics (just read any thread on the subject of circumcision to see that) and so they find those pro doctors who like mine think it should be done as a preventative measure.
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 Do you remove any potential breast tissue in baby girls as a preventative measure
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Interesting how some of the comments which were polite and to the point have been removed. Mods have an agenda alright.

I have boys to 2 different dads. Both dads are done, all my boys are done. I'm in my 30s and the majority of men I've slept with were also done.
The drs that did my children commented that even with all the crap in the media, it is actually on the rise

We had my boy done as we ended up back in hospital on day 2 of his life. The foreskin was too tight to allow him to wee and it was trapped under the foreskin. His dad is circumcised as well. I was told ballooning isn't a real reason for circumcision but my 2 day old baby had a bruised, swollen and sore penis from it so I got it done.

My ex was done but none of our five sons have been circumcised. They have been taught since they were little about proper care and hygiene and none of them have had any problems. I always think it’s a bit weird when people say they do it so the son is the same as the father. When and why would you be comparing penises????

I'm in my 20s and 7 of 8 guys I've been with have been circumcised. Got our 2 year old done too, so much cleaner!

 No actually, a risk of infection isn't cleaner. Leaving something alone and just washing it properly is cleaner.
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 Maybe you just date guys with festy d#cks?
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The current rate in Australia of circ vs uncirc is approx 20% and 80%, less and less people are doing it.
I was quite the sexually adventourous 20 year old lol and I have to say it was a pretty even split when I was slutting it up 😊

 Yep I've had sex with 12 partners over my life so far, 5 were 7 weren't. One guy was and I made the comment oh your circumcised and he was like I'm not sure , I don't know if I am! Awkward
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 Can I ask how old you are? I’m in my twenties and have only slept with twenty men (and given a fair share of bjs) and have only ever had one cut one.
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 ^ “only” 20?! 😳
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 33. So maybe it was a thing in the 80s to get it done. Although a lot of my friends in my age group who's husbands are done, have their sons done because dad is.
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 And that's 33 years old with only 3 of those being 1 night stands and the rest long term relationships, and now I'm married so that'll be it for sampling cut/uncut dicks hahaha
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 Hubby not into 3sums? 😂😂😂
It must be generational, or maybe area. And 20 isn’t that many, is it?

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 Yes it is a lot
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 Omg ffs who cares if it’s 20 or 70?!
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 ^ oh is 70 the number you’re working towards?
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 no threesomes, but only because my husband said nothing is more unattractive than an circumcised penis. :P
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 🤣
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 Yes in the 80s it was common. My partner was born in 1986 and was circumcised
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It's genital mutilation. Unless it is for a medical reason (rare). It's meant to be that way for a reason.

Husband is son isn't. There are no preventative health reasons to get it done. If I requested that my daughter's clitoris be cut I would most likely have her taken off me but for some strange reason it is okay to multilate little boys.

 If you can't understand the difference between a tiny and useless piece of skin, and a bundle of nerves that was designed to make sex pleasurable (and give women more incentive to have sex - and thus produce more children) than you're missing something.
Do you oppose ear piercing as well?

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 Then* you're missing something
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 *😂 🦄
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 you're missing something arent you? like your foreskin??
and im not the OP of this comment but i oppose ear piercing unless the children ask for it to be done.
but you know that you can take piercings out right? you can glue that bit of skin you wanted hacked off back on. just sayin

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I do think it's a generational thing unless there are religious beliefs. I'm in my early 40's and most of the men I've slept with have been, including my partner. My son isn't though, and I didn't even consider it. My partner didn't want him circumcised, it wasn't really discussed actually, just assumed his penis would be left alone! My son has been taught to clean under it every day and has never had an issue...