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I had hemmerhoidectomy surgery. They didn't ask whether I was planning to have any more kids, just put me on the waiting list cos it was through the public system. The surgery was painful, all surgery is. Meds help. I was back at work after a couple days BUT my bowel movements (every evening) were incredibly painful & hurt for maybe an hour afterwards. That lasted a couple weeks. Warm water with the detachable shower head really helped.
I don't have hemmerhoids anymore but I do have a big 'skin tag' on my anus now which never goes completely back in. Doesn't hurt but feels weird & requires extra care to keep clean. In general things are better than they were so I'm not complaining.
Anyway the long and short is: wouldn't want to go through that surgery again so if the doc said there was a chance of reoccurring I would wait until you're finished having kids. Unless your hemmheroids are really constantly painful and you don't think you can bear to wait.
I got one after my first, I just left it and it went away and didn't come back with my second.
I know you are scared and want to get it over and done with, but if you do, you risk having to do it twice. Surely that is worse than waiting.