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Make him get a job, he isn't working by the sounds of things so should be doing the cleaning and cooking and errands while you work. Just as you would do if the role was reversed. I would tell him it is time to step up or get a job. Def don't pay for his gym membership if he wants that he can get a job himself. It should be 50/50
So let me get this right.... you work all day, come home and do all the work around the house. And your partner doesn’t work and expects you to do everything? Where is the fairness, the balance? If he thinks this is acceptable, then he’s a loser, a user and you have to get rid of him.
Firstly, hugs to you mama. I feel your struggle. Having and raising children is hard, especially when you are working. Is it possible to cut down your hours at all? Maybe put your children into child care? Can your SO work a few days while you stay home instead? I am a mum of two, 5 and 2.5. I work two days, my kids go into child care. For the past few years i have been working just to pay for child care basically. Like you i also do everything around the house, and with the kids i do 95%. I am always tired, it’s physically and emotionally exhausting. If you are u happy with your relationship, have you considered leaving? X
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My husband tried that trick after he was retrenched and he was thinking of setting up a business for me to financially support. I said no, get a job and then start a side hustle. Well guess what one year later and he has a job but no side business. Don’t put up with it, he is using you, he can get a job. I said to my husband any job just as long as you have an occupation.
Just a thought, maybe he could be feeling let down because he can’t provide for his family? Maybe he can’t comfort you because he knows the stress he’s putting you through?
I know, as dumb as this sounds majority of the time this is how men are thinking 🤦🏽♀️
My sister spent 18 years solely raising her two babies and being the only breadwinner, while her husband did fu****g nothing or whatever he pleased, she ran herself absolutely ragged supporting everyone and when the kids were grown he upped and left her for a new woman she lost her house when he took half her assets to continue doing nothing. Such a waste of her life 😭
I get this, this was me a few years ago and it’s horribly stressful and tiring keeping up the facade. What’s with your SO not working or contributing? There is obviously a reason for this but I think that’s half of the deal here, and you’re missing half of the story obviously.