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What a nasty post. When people say that, they are trying to convey that they feel such a hurt for them, a pain that a person without children cannot understand. When you become a parent you are blessed with this beautiful love. So don't be such a miserable nasty person. Accept the fact people have an incredible insight to the love between parents and their children. A kind of love only a parent understands.
Who cares? Once we become parents, things change. The way we see things changes. It is something I never understood before becoming a mother. And, at the risk of backlash, I do believe as mothers, we are wired differently to fathers. This is not to say we are better, just different. So yeah, "as a mum"...what a terrible terrible tragedy for this family. Should be more concerned for them than worrying about how others convey their heartbreak for the child's loved ones.
hahaha totally agree. It's like a way of passively reinforcing that because they are parents, their 'empathy' ' or 'condolences' or opinion is somewhat 'strengthened' by using 'as a parent' or 'as a mum'. Many women are pretty obsessed with themselves and motherhood and forget there is a whole other range of people and perspectives out there. I have friends that are in legal, medical etc and I never hear them say 'as a doctor...' etc etc. A lady at work does it quite a bit and I like too gee them up by saying ...'well, as a staff member...'' etc etc.
Or when tragic deaths occur and people say "where were the parents".
That's just rude
It's annoying for sure but if is what it is. The meaning they are probably projecting is saying that it is heartbreaking. Why couldn't you make your post about the positives instead of the negative- eg the PS segment. It's a sad day for the family, spread positive was and put your differences aside