Ask SAHM is a place where you can ask our staff & community a question safely & anonymously. Please read our disclaimer.

Married for 26 years and the prick still can't grasp the concept of wiping benches down when washing up..

He wilk only wash items that are next to the sink. It makes me so angry. It is that that hard! Anyone else sick of this type of shit?


Got an Answer?

Answers (12)

๐Ÿ˜†๐Ÿ˜†๐Ÿ˜† you should consider yourself lucky. My useless husband won't even wash up so you're doing ok luv.

 And you married him because....?
helpful (0) 
 ^not for his inability to wash up. What a di*****d thing to say
helpful (5) 
 Agree here. Mine will do just about anything except wash up and mop floors. And those are 2 things that I absolutely hate doing as well so you can imagine what our kitchen looks like ๐Ÿ˜‚
helpful (2) 

You seem like you'd be very hard to live with so I think you should be happy he hasn't left you for a younger model yet. There's always a positive

 A little mean but I kind of agree
helpful (1) 

Get a dishwasher

helpful (0) 
 Fix it
helpful (1) 

My husband has never done any house work in 10 years! And I mean nothing!

 Wow...i see this ending with 30 years of resentment & a blunt instrument.
helpful (1) 
helpful (0) 
 Op of this answer - LOL I may have thought about it at times
helpful (1) 

Divorce him

 ^^ This ๐Ÿ‘
helpful (0) 
 What a shame you think divorce is an answer
helpful (0) 

Mine is the same, and Iโ€™ve had this discussion with friends...โ€isnโ€™t it funny that if you ask a woman to do the dishes, she will do the dishes, check to make sure there are no other dishes to clean that might be left in other parts of the house, wipe the benches and put everything back in its proper place so the kitchen surfaces are clean and tidy and dishes are done. If you ask a man to do the dishes he will do the dishes only, and only the dishes within immediate reach of the sink.โ€ I think it is pretty common, that doesnโ€™t make it right, but at least you arenโ€™t alone. I donโ€™t ask him to do dishes anymore, but I also donโ€™t wash his clothes anymore or make him lunch and I only cook about 3 nights a week, so that helps lessen my resentment ๐Ÿ˜

 Yep i'm the same
helpful (0) 

If that's the least of your marital issues then you have it pretty lucky lady

I understand how this would be annoying, but surely after 26 years you would have been able to adapt to the situation? Like making sure everything you want washed is stacked next to the sink, and accepting that wiping benches is your thing. It's not fair that you have to do it, but for 5-10 minutes effort you could save your sanity. If you are doing all the housework, as another poster suggested stop doing something that directly affects him, like his washing.

If he is kind, respectful and loves you, then look past it. Just don't wash his clothes or something.

You'd think you'd just have told him seeing as it's been so long

 I tell hin on daily basis. He does it out if spite.
helpful (0)