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He is probably just self projecting. Men like to do that when they sleep around.
Perhaps his self esteem is a bit low at the moment.
Don't focus on defending his accusations - focus on building him up and telling/ showing him why you love him and is the only one for you.
My husband is an alcoholic. I separated (under the same roof) with him in Feb 2018. I started going to meetings and talking with people, including other men, about 6 months after separating. The “cheating” (turns out he never took the separation seriously) accusations came shortly thereafter. I’ve learned that accusations such as these stem from one of three things. 1) Insecurity 2) Deflection 3) Paranoia. Without knowing you and your partner it’s impossible to determine but I have a feeling you know which of the three it is. All I can offer advice wise is you need to focus on you and your wellbeing. If you have communicated to him and not reached a resolution then I suggest you take a step away from the drama to reevaluate your own priorities.
So....he’s trying to control you - he wants you to ‘be more mindful of how you appear to other people’?! What the?!
There’s a few alarm bells going off here....even if you are outgoing and he isn’t - what right does he have to try and control your behaviour especially when you are just being yourself?! 😤
I’d be concerned that he is projecting his own behaviour too - this sounds pretty classic as others have pointed out.
if you aren't and he doesn't believe you show him the door. Tell him you wont be accused of cheating because he is feeling insecure.
could he have anxiety ? my partner did and it led to cheating accusations and massively reduced sex drive.
hew went on anti anxiety meds but they made everything worse
we use therapy now
Sounds like maybe he is. My husband accused me for two years straight and then I found out it was because he was going to brothels
Yes as all the others are saying, MASSIVE alarm bells. It's textbook cheater behaviour, but even if that's not it, the other explanation is that he