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You want to get married pay for your own wedding. If parents wish to gift something to help that’s good. But pay your own way. It’s 2019!
Bride and groom should pay for their own weddings. I hate that parents are expected to pay. It’s wrong.
The people getting married should have no expectations of receiving help. However if parents choose to pay for stuff, that's their choice. Our parents went halves in the reception costs (just the meals and drinks, not venue hire etc) because they chose to, but we would have been fine to pay for it.
It use to be traditional for the girls parents to pay!!! My father paid for mine, I paid for my dress, the bridesmaid paid for their dresses. This was over 25 years ago. Back then, my wedding would have cost a fraction of what it does now. I was allowed only 100 guests. I actually didn't want a wedding, my parents did. Now days the cost is well over 25 thousand dollars. Way way over-rated, causes family conflict. If you want a big wedding, the couple should pay for it, and if the parents or family can afford to, they can help out. It isn't tradition like it use to be. My second wedding, I had in the bush with a couple of witnesses, now that was how I loved it. I paid for the photographer in my first, which cost me a few hundred dollars (nothing compared to now) and you know what, once you look at them you put them away never to be seen again :) !!!!! Waste of money!!! Though easy for me to say that now!!! Everything is so expensive these days concerning, weddings, babys, and death!!! Just elope, have a great holiday or deposit for a house and have one big party!!!!! It's all over in one day!!!!!!! Don't blame parents now for saying no, who has $25,000 laying around????? I wish I did!!!! A lot of couple ask for guests to pay for their meal!! I say make it your special day on a budget you can afford!!! And if you can afford a big wedding with all the trimmings, and have money left over, then go for it. Whatever rocks your boat!!! But remember it is all over in one day, and all those guests you paid for you probably won't see half of them again!!!!!
The people getting married should pay for it! If you can't afford a wedding, don't have one or have a smaller wedding or save up for longer.
I think it's up to the parents to decide if they are happy to contribute, but it shouldn't be expected. My parents wanted to contribute, but my husband's parents didn't and that's ok. My parents were annoyed, so in the end they just paid for family and family friends on my side. It made it difficult as my husband's family only had limited number of guests that we could pay for, and his parents were upset that none of their family friends or cousins were invited, but they couldn't expect us to go into debt to pay for it.
We paid for own wedding. Why should parents pay? They can gift or help out where they can but it's their choice. Talk about entitled. What brats.
They should pay for their own wedding, its just that simple. Want to get married pay for it yourself.
How many of these parents that don't pay had their parents pay for their wedding I wonder? We are definitely seeing a selfish shift with baby boomers, they got all the inheritance, help with buying a home, free weddings, free babysitting but then when it comes to their turn to do it all its a big no.
Girls parents eloped overseas in the 70s to get married, all paid for by themselves, mostly because they didn't tell anyone that they were even getting married until afterwards.
I think this is different for everyone, there's no set rules anymore, not in this country anyway. If I get married we will be paying for it ourselves simply because it would be a really simple wedding and both parents will need to travel for it, so thats enough. However when our kids get married we will be contributing 5000 to it, whether its big or small or whatever that is what we will be giving. In this circumstance I think its a bit rude of girls parents to not offer any help at all. I would feel so awkward at my childs wedding knowing someone else had paid for it.