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I would say wait until both of yours are at school for starters. They do grow out of the "wont share" behaviour a bit by then. And the little one will be mature enough to understand what you are doing, rather than seeing the new arrival as a usurper into the household.
Most fostered children will come to you either mildly or significantly traumatised, and you may not be able to put the foster child into daycare for behavioural reasons. Even with older children who are school age, some have such behavioural problems that you will find yourself constantly called to school to sort out the problems, and to take the child home. That will impact on your job. I say this from experience having an employee going through it. He and his wife both worked full time, and even though they shared the responsibility, the frequency of calls to school impacted both their jobs.
The other issue to consider is how a badly behaved foster child will influence your childrens behaviour.
It’s a big commitment, but an even bigger reward.
You could do ‘respite’ care as an option to ease in. This would involve having kids usually fri - sun once a month or fortnight and maybe a few extra days on school holidays.
It’s hard sending kids home as those decisions are out of your hands and the kids can leave no matter where they are placed.
There is a ‘statement of Standards’ (QLD) and I think a foster care handbook online which might give you some information.
That said, most foster care agencies run information sessions where you can go and ask questions etc... have a look for your state.
Good luck 😊
However, I literally get phone calls everyday, I need to go pick up from school every other day, we are suspended on average once every week and a half, although can be more.
I've had older kids who've stolen money, jewellery, electronics ipads, phones etc, a car, holes in doors, holes in glass windows, sometimes child protective services are good and replace some items, Other times it's out of my pocket and my insurance. It's wet beds most nights, even for teenage children (not all children are like this), it's children who are toilet trained actually taking crap in their pants frequently (behave issue), my own kids sometimes don't get enough attention from me because of children who's attention needs are higher/greater. There's kids who have tried punching, slapping, fighting with my own teenage children, out of jealously. I've been kicked, punched, bitten,
Being trauma informed makes langange different but as long as you react as though you acknowledge the behaviour as trauma and don’t set the child/ren up to fail (learn about able/wiling) then you will be fine.
Fostering is hard work.
I know children who have been abused by foster carers, so I’m always skepticial but I have hope and I hope you are truly genuine. I also wouldn’t foster children older than my own due to sexual abuse which is very common, unfortunately, it’s a very sad reality
You know I considered this and I kept saying when the kids are a bit older... well the truth is there will never be a right time. For me it was an excuse, I like my lifestyle and love my little family and honestly I know this sounds harsh but I don’t want to give up what I have for anyone else. Yes it’s selfish but for me life is complicated enough. We both work and it can be tough if one of us isn’t working. Think carefully about it once you ahead you can not go back. Yes I am happy with my decision.
You want to be a foster parent to look good