Got an Answer?
Answers (41)
No way in hell would I put up with that bullshit.. amd that's what it is, total bullshit. What a disrespectful asshole. I am angry FOR you!
helpful (0)
helpful (2)
The guy is a disrespectful piece of shit. The fact you’ve gone to pick him up and he makes you wait while he finishes his beer and then sometimes even starts another shows he couldn’t give a damn about anyone but himself. I know you married him, but I think you’d be better off separating. It’s obvious he doesn’t value your relationship or the responsibilities of being a father.
My hubby put alcohol before us for 18 years, now I’ve left and he says we can make a future without alcohol!! Too late buddy 🤣
My husband knows he's welcome to stay out as long as he wants. But I'm locking the door and going to bed at 11. If he's not home by then he can sleep outside. Tough luck babe I'm not your slave. He's come home late before and started carrying on out the front yelling and such, so I brought the kids into our bed (at the back of the house), pretended to be asleep and called the police anonymously about a noise complaint. When they arrived, one of them used their phone to call me and I pretended to wake up to let him in. They laughed at him. That was the last time he pulled that shit. Now he let's me know if he intends to stay out after 11 and asks if I can wait up for him or leave a key out.
As for the calls and texts while you're out. Mine does that too. I've started leaving the house with an almost flat phone. Like 20% and under of battery. I'm not using it but it's there if I need to make a call. The first time he calls I tell him that my phones going flat and if it's still got any battery left I'll text him when I'm on my way back 😈 I love the man but god damn, my alone time is precious, few and far between. I'll be fu***d if I let him dictate it.
helpful (5)
The next morning he's going to be hungover and need rest, which leaves me with 3 kids to keep out of his hair. I can't do that properly if I'm asleep on my feet.
helpful (5)
Oh i would be pissed to i agree start doing it to him to. My husband used to do it so i started organising to take the kids out to do something fun the next day when he really needed to sleep once the kids started asking him why he never came out with us and slept all day he stopped staying out all night and doesn't go out very often now and prioritizes family over drinking
Thanks ladies. I had such a bad sleep last night waiting for him and wondering if he will even come home. 5am to me is pretty much the next day anyway it was light ten mins later! He's hard to argue with as he turns everything around to be my fault or gets angry he is not good at communicating I'm going to try talking to him though. I'm also upset because he knows I wouldn't like it but does it anyway its hurtful. And the biggest thing is I took an annual leave day today for us to do some much needed work on the house and garden today as we are getting a pup this week and fences going in we have to clear the area first and some organising tasks and its lunchtime now hes still fast asleep! I'm thinking of telling him to catch an uber to get the car and also of going out tonight. I dont really have anywhere to go but could actually go to the gym browse kmart take myself for dinner and see a movie then come home at midnight its all the things i enjoy!
helpful (2)
I don't care if my partner stays out at a mates house all night. As long as I know beforehand and it isn't all the time.
I think its fine if he wants to stay out all night but its rude to not be considerate of you or your feelings. If its an all the time thing id be upset too. I wouldn't appreciate his friends thinking you're crazy either, I would hope that he says something to them about that. Its not fair on you or your kids either.
My husband did the same thing to me when the kids were much younger , so after a few years I decided that I was done being a good wife and cheated on him ! And you know what , now he wonders who’s calling me or texting me , who I’m going out to meet up with , when you turn the tables on these bastards they don’t like it not one bit ! :)
If I did this my husband would flip his shit, so, no I don’t think it is acceptable behaviour at all. Your husband sounds like one of those douchey blokes who think “the boys” are more important and treats his wife and kids like they are just a hassle. I bet he was like that when you married him and you thought he would change. But blokes like that never change, that’s why you don’t marry them. Ladies, marry a bloke that already see you/ family as number 1, not some bloke who you think will change if you have kids. Kids will change a woman, but very rarely a man.
How horrible and you're right to feel disrespected. as petty as it feels I say you go out and do the same to him, prearrange with friends to stay over but don't tell him. Every tune he does it you do it until he starts breaking out in a sweat of concern to what time you'll be back. Try infirm your kids that you're not sure what time sk they are not too upset.
My husband does the same thing he doesn’t even call me t say where he is . Idk I just give him the silent treatment. Then I go treat myself shopping do my hair.
I would be pissed too. I’m an anxious person and have always asked that my husband text me during the night. Not telling me what he is doing as such but just touching base so I know all is ok. He messages me when he is leaving the event so I know he is on his way home.
But this all came from me “training” him as we used to fight a lot when he used to go out and come home at all hours when I was at home stressing. We have kids now too so he has changed a bit. But some of his friends think it’s ok to go out all night long and not let their partners know so guessing it’s a guy thing.
I’d def pay him back and make sure you do exactly what he does to you and if he cracks it, say to him well that’s what you do on a regular basis and I’m meant to be ok with it. If he doesn’t realize After that then he is just a selfish dick head. Good luck