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Oh I hear ya loud and clear. My hubby says it doesn't bother him if I go out and don't contact him so why should he contact me. Um because I'm home by 10pm and I drive. This was last year. We actually separated over it as one time he didn't come home till lunch time the next day I had no idea where he was. We're back together now and much better. Good luck xx
Stop picking him up and get rid of him if he wants to be with drinking friends more than his wife.
and always wondering when he'll do it to you again.
Let him live. Sometimes it's good to be spontaneous. Just because you're in your 40s doesn't mean you need to be flogged out and routine. Give him a break. Just because you might have your boring expectation doesn't mean he can't get loose and have unexpected fun sometimes.
You are an enabler.
I am.going through the same thjng..🙄 7am this.morning he measages me can i come home when i wake well spend the day together. But thats a lie he wakes up.and starts workjng again hell just let me join him..i feel so.physically and mentally sick with this behaviour i really hope i ajnt i this position still in my 40s. My partners 29 and does this shit every other day. I dnt think i can be in this for much longer its depressing
My husband and I have been married 25 years and he recently started doing this and i hate it but he tells me he is not doing anything wrong he said I shouldn’t try to pick his friends for him he say like or not they are my friends one guy is a 25 year old dope dealer he says as long as the guy don’t do anything to him he is fine with it and he told me i need to find some friends and go out and have fun
My husband started doing this almost 2 years ago. He says he’s at his cousins house, which is a girl. On several occasions I just popped up there and he was there fixing something. Meanwhile l, I can’t get him to fix anything around our house. He thinks this is completely normal to stay out all night. He says that he don’t complain when I go places during the day. I go to the grocery store, thrift store, or to work. He doesn’t work either. He thinks I’m crazy and this behavior is ok as long as he’s not cheating. I feel your pain.
I’m so sorry - I’m in a similar situation. I have a newborn and my husband goes for a couple of beers... ends up back at 5am. I feel so hurt as I also have our other 4 more children the next day while he plays one of his sports. He has tried to pretend there is no issue and made comments like “you gonna be mardy all day” but I’m not taking it. I’m not pretending it didn’t happen .... just remember if we went out for a couple of drinks with a friend and cake in next morning ... we would probably be kicked out with accusations of cheating! You aren’t 18.... your middle aged with a family which you chose! Don’t walk over the women that love and support you and your family!!!
I also really like the idea of doing it to him as i never have. And each time too.. When i have an odd night out to have dinner with girlfriends then chat after he will msg me a lot and tells me its getting late, he misses me, hes waiting up and wants to sleep, then, are u even coming home? Come on honey come home now etc and i go home to appease him! Not even nights out if i visit a girlfriend for coffee in the day he does it or if im shopping!or at a playdate with my toddler he tells me off for staying too long and messing with my baby's day sleep! It makes me anxious. I think a taste of his own medicine will maybe make him realise
Reply to the first text that it’s extremely rude of you to be on your phone while catching up with someone. It is!!!
Tell him not to wait up and switch your phone on silent.
That’s emotional abuse
My sons father did that to me once. That's why he's now my ex