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Maybe its evened up in other places so you haven't felt it unfair? Yard work, kid pick ups and drop offs, bath times, meal times ? I used to complain about my ex not doing any housework and thought the work load wouldn't change when we split, but boy was I in for a surprise. He did alot more than I gave him credit for. I would never admit that though 😅
If you're ok with it, you're ok with it. Don't let what other people think about who should be doing what make you question it.
How does your partner feel about his mere 20% contribution ?
I find that I am more than happy to do more than my fair share if my efforts are appreciated. I get mad when I feel than I am being taking advantage of.
I wish I could be OK with that! I just gave up and his contribution is folding his own clothes and putting them away. I just gave up and said if no one wants to help you can eat pre made food and live in a pigsty.
How many kids do you have? I'm curious how this is possible? Do you get take away a lot?
There are things I found easier doing than my ex doing them. He was really helpful with housework but he didn't do it how it has to be done for my mind to function. I found it easier to do the things that would send me crazy if not done my way and asked him to help out with keeping the kids distracted.