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You are enabling his shitty behaviour and setting a piss weak example for your children.
Make a decision and do something.
Destroy the kids passports if they have one.
I worked on a refuge. It opened my eyes to how much help there is for womenI your situation.
Do it or end up dead. Who will protect your children then???
Don't be another statistic.
Which state are you in?? I can give you contact details for women and children's refuges.
DESTROY KIDS PASSPORTS
Those poor children.
All you are doing is complaining and making excuses.
If you are in that of a dangerous situation, record the abuse, go to the police, delete social media, don’t tell anyone where you are going and start a new life for your children.
Be smart. Be strong. Take action.
Sorry what was the question?
The only thing I see here is for you to leave him?
You said yourself the only thing you hate is that he is their father? He’ll never change. You and your kids deserve love respect happiness and peace.
No one deserves violence, threats or anything else you described.
From an outside perspective it’s black and white; LEAVE!
Yeah I do! Just got a 5year permanent no contact DVO and full custody him having supervised through the Federal Circuit Court. If he is so bad get the hell to court stop enabling and allowing your children to be exposed to such shit
But do seek legal aid (free?) and know that Centrelink can help with leaving him and establishing yourself on your own.
Just be very careful with such a person.
get out. Sounds like a very abusive relationship and you need to leave for both your safety and your children’s safety. Check out reach out.com https://au.reachout.com/articles/domestic-violence-support
It lists all the different phone numbers to seek help depending where you live. Start by contacting your local helpline and they will advise you on the best way to go about everything.
Speak to your nearest womens shelter and the kids school (if they attend school). You need to be smart about this. You don't need proof of domestic violence. Your word is enough.
You can get help to get out from under him. And then you disappear. Do NOT tell your children what your plans are. Kids can't keep a secret, God bless 'em. But think about it, once you leave, you stay gone. You left the kids asthma puffer there? Tough, get a new one. Your great aunts ring? Not anymore. Do NOT go back unless you have a full police guard.
Your partner isn't from this country? Awesome. He won't know about all the little nooks and crannies you do.
This is my "get out" plan should I ever need to escape (and I've already escaped one abusive asshole, thank Christ we didn't have kids or a legal obligation to each other). Find a random spot on the map and go there. You tell people your name is no longer Anne, you're known by your middle name. Your kids new school can use your maiden name as their known as (spoken name). You're not from wherever you just left. You're from an entirely different place.