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Porn and worried about my husbands mind

I've recently found A LOT of porn on my husbands phone. He is 30 and ALL the porn he is looking at was "Father and Daughter" or "Old Man, Young Girl" (Obviously legal age 18 plus) but this seems so strange to me. We have 2 daughters aged 5 and 3 and a son who is 1 and He doesn't know I've seen it but in conversation I asked him what type of porn he likes and he said in his own words " definitely mature babes, I couldn't watch young chicks cos thats creepy". Why do men HAVE to watch porn to start with.Bloody hell.

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Okay so the issue here is what exactly? That he's watching porn at all? The content of the porn he's watching? Or that he lied to you about his preferred style of pornography?
I'm not commenting on whether men should be "allowed" watch porn or not, it's your relationship not mine.
Don't ask him what he likes to watch! There are some things that just need to stay private. I lie if my husband asks me what kind I like. As if I'm going to tell him that. Porn is deeply personal business (provided its all legal).
Old man younger girl isn't a bad type to enjoy. The older men are usually more into the sex instead of the show boating that younger men do. It's irritating having Mr Oily Abs 22 constantly going "oh yeah" while I'm flicking the bean. And why do they always concentrate on his face? I don't watch porn to see faces! Show me the dicks!!!
The younger women are fun to watch because they're still "fresh" and don't look like they are recovering from a 30 year tanning bed and meth addiction. Plus they're still perky and excited to be in the industry.

 this is why I watch lesbian porn. men in porn are so irritating

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 πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ you made me laugh
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What are you worried about? So you might not like that he watches it, but it if it’s llegal, doesn’t interfere with any aspect of his life or your marriage then I don’t think you need to worry.

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 I think the issue is she is concerned about the father daughter porn. She wants to know if she should be worried about her kids more than her marriage.
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I think it would be so funny if someone as a joke looked up all this really weird porn knowing that their wife was going to come snooping at their history πŸ˜‚

That is a very common preference, and one most men wont admit to as porn choices are deeply private, and younger nubile women are probably verging on forbidden, but not illegal. Men are hardwired to want younger women generally throughout their lives.
I don't think I have ever met one man who wasn't into porn; they are highly visual creatures.
As long as it doesn't become an addiction it is no problem.
It is ideal if you and your partner can share some porn together, but you need to choose something that you both like.
And fantasy play is good for couples. Some exploration might bring your sex life to new heights with your hubby.

 My dad never watched porn
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 πŸ˜‚ why the f**k would your dad even let you suspect he watched porn? Wtf is going on in your family πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
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 I bet he had stick books, thats what all the guys had before internet porn came along.
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Honestly if you've been on any of the 4 main porn sites lately every single page is daddy/daughter, brother/sister incest shit, it's like trending or something and it's totally off putting to me but in his defence maybe he doesn't even read the titles and just looks for the best pussy shot thumbnail. On the other hand, if that kind of porn specifically is only what he has been viewing then yeah.. it's a bit creepy in my opinion!

 It's because of those fu****g incest twins on GoT. I swear to God, it's disgusting. The actors are hot AF, but the plot is gross. No matter how steamy you make the scene, the concept of siblings having sex is just icky.
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 The idea of the incest plotline in GOT is to show the characters have no morals at all: they are evil to the core. its to make you hate their characters. But also its just to shock a bit. People always talk about something thats a bit shocking.
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Ok so I don’t look at the titles I look at how into it and thoughtful the guy is so it might be something like that?

I knew a guy who was only ever interested in skinny chicks but his porn choice was anything with chubby pussies in it πŸ˜‚ Apparently fat ones are better to look at or something. There are also women and men who like gay porn but are not gay themselves. Its just really difficult to take porn choice seriously. He probably was not even looking at the titles.