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Lately I have lost myself, as a woman, mother and wife. I am angry a lot of the time. What infinite advice do you have to be a better parent and wife. I don't want to go on meds just yet

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I know how you feel, I once was the same until I realised I needed balance. It's hard wearing many hats and trying to juggle so much. I ended up making time out for me it's talking and socialising with people my own age for a few hours and feel much better for it, and this year I decided to start studying again. It's all about baby steps. Everyone is different in their own balance and time out. Work out which one you need, your kids and hubby will thank you for it.

How much time to yourself do you get each week? A proper amount of time not just a cup of tea on the dash out the door? Is it possible to have a child free day once a week via daycare or babysitting? I take one day and it's my own time. Just for me to do with as I please. I get very defensive of that time when hubby is off for it. He can only have part of the day with me lol... also, remember, in the eyes of your children you are the greatest most amazing person ever. Even when you're grumpy you're still so cool and grown up :-) hugs to you

I can also relate to how you feel, I have 4 children, 8 years old and under...while I wouldn't have it any other way, there are many days where I feel like I'm drowning in housework and my life revolves around the home and 4 little lives that demand my constant attention. What a pp said about time for yourself is key. Absolutely essential. And little things that make you feel good about yourself, could be as simple as a new item of clothing or getting into a nice book you enjoy. I find that doing something like trying a new recipe (and I'm a crap cook) or accomplishing some sort of task gives me the boost I need. Maybe spend a little time in the evenings to write down your feelings, like what is making you feel angry and perhaps this will help clear your head a bit and give you some perspective. If you have someone else in your life that you can talk to and open up to, someone who is not going to judge you, that also can help. The fact that you say you want to be a better mum and wife speaks volumes. It says you care.

I can definitely relate to this, I actually feel like I've lost my identity as a person after having my baby almost 2 years ago- actually I still feel like that now a lot of times. I'm lucky to be able to have a day off without baby though - put her in a daycare. Although most of the time I always have errands or chores to do even when I'm off. I think if you can channel and distract you energy into something else, it'll be good for you, like picking up a hobby or even the old hobby that you've never done anymore after you've had your kids. For me it was fitness and yoga, and it helps a lot. Don't worry, I think it's normal to feel that way

I was just like that but also didnt want to be medicated. I spoke to my gp and he suggested I talk to a psychiatrist. I was terrified but after 3 sessions I was a different person. I had PND but was able to fix it on my own with no meds.

I just did the tame your temper course through the parental dress centre on Facebook. Am much calmer. Read the book emotional infidelity about relationships. Gp can refer you for counselling. Good luck xx