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Do you regret having an affair?

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F**k no. I was with an abusive c**t. The affair helped me realise that and helped me get out. It didn’t last long after, but I will forever be grateful to the man who helped me see how I should be treated. He saved my life.

 Same here there has been DV in our past and I just can’t get over it. Now I worry if I get caught I will get seriously injured. I don’t know why but I just can’t leave.
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I think the brief affair I had made me realise my marriage was incredibly unhealthy - it highlighted the fact that I needed to end my relationship with my husband. The affair lasted a few weeks - and was over after I left my husband. I don’t think my ex husband realised. I do regret the affair because it was dishonest and something I’d never do again.

My husband had an affair, it almost distroyed me. We thought we would try to mend our marriage. But things have forever changed. I will never love him like I did. I've come to understand he is a covert narcissist (no one would pick up how he treats me, because it's subtle & done privately). I never realised because I adored him & always looked for the positive. We are still together, although he no longer has my allegience. I am viewing it more like a business deal now, meeting the domestic & financial needs of the family. There's no real emotional connection or love anymore (No intimacy either, it's just a fu*k, my needs not considered very often). I have grieved the loss of what i thought i had. I regret spending 20 years with someone who has fu*ked me around, fu*cked me over & fu*cked me up. My inner sparkle was slowly crushed over the years. I'm building myself up again. I never thought I would be in this position, I am working on an exit plan.

 Let Karma deal with him .........

"You will never understand the damage you caused someone, until the same thing is done to you"

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 Unless you need a revenge affair to help you get over it, like another poster did
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Yes! Tore my marriage apart. Short term gain long term pain, not worth it. I own it, I’m not proud.

 How long was your affair? And how long ago?
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 My affair is making my home life more bearable but I’m worried about my long term mental health.
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 3 years. Ended (not by choice) less than a year ago. Get out now before you get busted and you will no matter how well you think you have your tracks covered.
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 But if you get busted regardless why not continue?
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 And ruin another family in the process?
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 Maybe the family was already ruined.
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 No wife is clueless and sees her husband my ex AP as her world, little does she know her husband participated in turning my world upside down. No good can come from an affair, I had to learn the hard way.
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No. My husband had an affair yrs ago and having mine helped me move past it . He doesnt know and will never find out.

 How long did it last?
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