Has anyone NEVER been away from their children?
Answered 3 years ago
My husband and I have two children, 8 and 4 years old. Since our oldest was born, we have never had a date night out alone, or a weekend away etc without our children. We have absolutely no-one to watch them, so if I need an appointment (dr or haircut for example), my husband will have to take the day off/or half a day off work so he can stay with our youngest. I had a caesarean with our youngest, and my husband couldn't even be there for it, because he needed to mind our oldest.
We absolutely didn't have children with the expectation that others would mind them, but sometimes I have pangs of sadness when I realise my husband and I have not had a break for 8 years. Even just once a year to have dinner out together would be wonderful!
Our siblings and their partners all have fulltime jobs and busy lives, our parents are elderly, and our friends also have jobs, or they have really young children/babies, and we wouldn't feel comfortable asking them to mind our children when they are already busy enough. I guess I am just wondering if anyone else is in the same situation?
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Than grocery or hair/dentists etc in which my husband is with them. My choice though as I don’t trust anyone with them. I would never hire a babysitter or nanny, I sent my eldest to preschool but not my second as I don’t want or trust others to help her with the toilet or getting changed, etc.
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We felt we needed the occasional date alone , not overnight just during the day, so we hire a paid babysitter to stay with the kids for a few hours every 2 or 3 months. The kids love the babysitter like a sister and are always so excited for when she comes and always have so much fun. She's a qualified childcare worker too so brings activities and does fun things with them.
Getting a babysitter could be something you could try. We even had her watch the older kids when I was in hospital having the baby so that my husband could be there with me.
Paid babysitting services are where it is at. Once a month for 3-4 hours I used one when the kids were small so I could have some me time.