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Gamer husband

Answered 1 year ago

When we first met he didn't play games but over the years he's gotten to the point where its mostly everyday especially everyday on his blocks off. He's a day shift worker with week on week off. Now I wouldn't mind if it was a few hours here and there. But it absolutey makes my skin crawl the way he yells at it, gets mad, talks about the people he plays with. Its like he'd itching to get to it, I find it embarrassing that a grown man plays video games, if he's not on that he's now using his freaking phone to play. I want to smash the damn consult right in front of him I feel myself burning up with anger. I fkn hate it.


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1 year ago
I honestly don't know how you'd get out of this.aybr socialise him a bit more with mature friends and hope that it runs off? It sounds absolutely skin crawling, and to be it sounds like an addiction...I mean let's be real, these games are designed to be asdictive and substitute real-life living. He should be socialising off this, keeping his hobby without yelling at a screen for all to be bothered with...can you shine this being acceptable in any other personal hobby inside the home? You there knitting, and yelling and all this? He probably needs reference, but the way it is bothering you I'm not sure how you could broach it without him getting upset since he's so invested in it...I would just hope he is more invested in your happiness

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1 year ago
Communication would be key. Acknowledge that he enjoys playing games, classify it as his hobby, it not wrong for him to have personal and individual pursuits. However his excessive use (possibly a gaming addiction) are leading to an unbalance that are impacting your relationship. It’s important in a calm and constructive manner that you communicate that your unhappy and come up with a plan to change the schedule to rebalance but not eliminate his hobby. I don’t know your personal schedules and what time would work well, but a small move toward balance is normally best to limit him throwing up defence of his hobby. Many people feel their actual sense of indentity being attacked when they have a passionate hobby, so small changes over time are best to limit resentment forming. Maybe try with just a date night once a week, or a few hours of schedule change. Small steps. You may get push back, but don’t feel any compromise is a bad one with the long term view to rebalancing.

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1 year ago
Congratulations you have a man child

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1 year ago
Adult gamers are immature
Leave him

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2 years ago
Smash the console. Do it for us all

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2 years ago
I have a gamer partner. He’s always been into games, which to me it’s fine. It’s one of his hobbies, he enjoys playing. Before we had our kids we set a few ‘rules’ in place about the games though. They’ve been changed over the last 5 years as the kids age but basically he doesn’t play them when the kids are awake/not having quiet time and he doesn’t play them every night. Every now and again he will have all his friends over or he will go out for the night to a friends place and they will play games all night. It’s like his boys night out instead of drinking they play games. We are only in our mid 20’s so he hasn’t outgrown games yet.

Maybe you need to talk to your partner and put some boundaries in place together. He needs to know that you don’t like them but you also need to understand that games may be a hobby for him, they may be a way for him to have fun and unwind. I wouldn’t be okay with him yelling at the games or talking badly about the people he plays with though. Especially if he does it around the kids.

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2 years ago
I hear yah!! My husband growls our teenage son for spending so much time playing xbox while he spends hours a day playing pubg on his cell phone. Does my head in but I spose there's worse things he could be doing....

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2 years ago
Are you wanting advice or just to rant. Hopefully Getting it off your chest helps a little but if its advice, im sorry i dont have any. I just want to wish you all the best xx