I checked his phone. I found text messages.
Turned out ge'd hired a prostitute. I found the newspaper, matched the number to the ad. Attached it to the front door. I donned my dishwashing gloves, went thru the bin, found the condom. Attached it to the ad, and attached a very angry note. Packed enough of my things to get me through until I could collect the rest and finalise the split and left.
I've never looked back and now I have a beautiful life.

Mostly gut feeling. He left his FB logged in and I found the messages and that was it. I stood up, packed his things, put them by the front door and waited till he came home then took his key and told him to get out. About 3 months later he rang me up crying and begging me to take him back. No freaking way bud 😂

Is he having sex with you?

Started staying up really late on the computer, wore clothes to bed, avoided sex, very polite to me but like an acquaintance. I knew- it was the changes in behaviour that triggered it. The irony is I moved out and a couple of months later he was pursuing me hard - turns out the grass wasn’t greener! The damage had been done though.

‘How do you know if your partner is cheating?’ Simple - ask your partner! If you’re in a relationship and are unable/unwilling/incapable of having an honest/difficult conversation - then your partner cheating is the least of your worries.

He changed. Spent money on nicer clothes and better shoes, cologne and dyed his hair blond ( that should have been the biggest flag!!) hus behaviour towards me and the kids changed. Didn’t acknowledge me or them, left for a “coffee with a work mate” and came home the next morning with no contact what so ever. Secretive about his phone & FB usage. No sex at all between us when we used to be very active. And like all the others said gut feeling. I knew something was up. Then I found the condoms and chats....

Gaslighting you

Deep down you know something is up, time will tell with proof... I didn’t know my husband as sleeping with escorts and going to massage for 2 years then one night he asked me to get his old phone out and find a text and I saw every message and then I checked the bank statements... trust your gut you won’t be wrong. It’ll break you but make you stronger

Gut feeling mostly.
Accusing YOU of cheating and getting paranoid and suspicious over the things you're doing.
Protective over their phone/computer/electronic device with messaging capabilities.
Cleared web history.

It's mostly just the gut feeling. The other things you don't put into place until after you know the fact.

Gut feeling
Stop posting 5 questions in a row