How common is circumcision these days?
Answered 11 days ago
I know some people have strong views on this but I hope we can keep this polite and civilised.
I am due to have a boy in a couple of weeks and my husband is all for getting bub circumcised. I was of the impression that it's not that common like it used to be. But then I asked a few friends, and about thrèe of my friends that have boys, did get their boys circumcised, so maybe it's more common that I thought. I dunno if it's a regional thing? We are in Sydney.
I did / will / would circumcise my son17%
I didn't / won't / wouldn't circumcise my son83%
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On reflection, I kind of wished we had our two year old son done as a newborn. We did think about it at the time, but we never really got organised enough to do it. But it's actually quite easy to arrange.
I was nervous about doing it beforehand, but now I am really pleased we had him done.
Husbands father and brother are also circumcised, must be a family tradition. I know from him that his gym friends are uncircumcised. I had a conversation about my husband being circumcised from one of his friends wives, she was asking about it as their son might need it doing for medical reasons. I couldn't say much as I've been with him for most of my adult life and only had a couple of previous flings in my teens. I like the clean look of his penis and have no complaints in the bedroom.
I understand your preference for a circumcised guy. Once I'd experienced a few of both when I was younger, I was firmly in Camp Cut!
I find them so much nicer to look at because they're sleek, I love the silky smoothness and they just feel better in action. They just do it for me :-)
My other half had it done when he was an adult. He loves it. And so do I :-)
He is glad he had the choice though.
I'll do it now if I were you if you decide to go ahead.
For those considering it for your boys please do some research so you understand that there are different techniques that have different aesthetic and functional results.
After all, you are making a lifelong decision for your son and you want him to have a penis that looks good and performs well!
Depending on the method used, the scar will be further away from the head, more skin will be removed (dictating how much, if any, skin bunches up when flaccid and how tight the skin on the shaft it is when erect), and whether the frenulum, the band under the head, is removed.
The most popular method here in Australia seems to be the Plastibell, which involves a device being placed over the penis to tie off the foreskin, which drops off after a few days. In the US they tend to use the Gomco clamp, which takes the skin off straight away and results in a circumcision with the scar further down the shaft and the skin being tighter than the result from a Plastibell.
There are other methods used too.
But again, please do your research so that you get the result that you want and is best for your boy.
If you had ended up having a boy, which method would you have gone for?
In the end hubby and I decided we wouldn't circumcised if it was a boy, even though he had it done through personal choice in his 20s. We didn't see there was any need and that our son could choose to if he wanted to.
However, if we'd had a boy and decided to circumcise, I think we would have tried to find someone who uses the Gomco clamp.
From what I read, Gomco results in what in my mind is a "classic" circumcision and like most that I came across in my younger, wilder days :-)
Sorry if this is TMI, but Gomco tends to result in a circumcision that leaves the skin on the shaft smooth and wrinkle-free when soft, with no bunching up behind the head, and tight skin when erect. Also, the scar is usually further away from the head, retaining more sensitive inner foreskin. And the frenulum under the head is taken off in most cases.
The Plastibell on the other hand tends to leave a bit of skin bunched up behind the head, looser skin when erect, the scar closer to the head and leaves the frenulum.
As I said in my last post, most parents wouldn't realise the differences in method and results when they ask for a circumcision.
Anecdotally, I think it is quite common at the moment. I find that a lot of people are scared to talk about it for fear of judgement, but when I bring the topic up with expectant mums that I know, (especially once they know that my own two boys are done), it turns out that quite a few of them are choosing to circumcise. I do think it is something that people research before doing it, though.
I have a very strong preference for my men to be circumcised, but I still wouldn't have had it done to any of my sons. I don't see any reason at all.
I would have let them choose for themselves to be circumcised, like my DH did.
He says he far prefers to be circumcised but is glad he was given the choice (and I'm glad he chose to be!).
I'm not too sure if you can say what the 'norm' is. About 5 out of 8 boys in my mothers group with him had their little boys circumcised. It is also very easy to find a reputable surgeon in Newcastle and other parts of NSW who will perform the minor procedure.
Most surgeons use the plastibell method now which is simple, quick and relatively painless. My son required no pain relief after the procedure and certainly didn't cry every time he wee'd (although some might). It's a very simple process. They just tie a string around the penis where the plastic ring is, and the foreskin dies and drops off like the umbilical cord does, resulting in a nice neat circumcision. Bub is none the wiser.
I actually think that the father wanting his son to look the same as him is part of a valid argument.
It is certainly a very personal decision, and everyone's decision is the right one for their child.
My son is also circumcised.
My advice is talk to your doctor/OB/midwife etc. and read up on the pros & cons. Watch videos of it being done & decide for yourselves with all the info.
We decided not to after some confronting info from our doc on complications from a client who ignored advice & had it done & seeing it done on a news clip on 60 minutes about it a few days before DS was born. We decided we didn't have a compelling reason to do it so didn't. But you do what makes you comfortable. I still wonder if we did the right thing, so no judgement here!