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What time do you expect your 14 yr old to be back home after a party? They will be dropped of back home by another parent.
I’m not going to say the time just yet just want to see what others say.
Jailhouse “destroyer of my life” Mum
Have an answer?
I am always super suss of any event where you can’t pick them up. I do this and I give a time and wait out the front in the car. I don’t cause a scene or create a fuss going in.:. It’s their life. But if they are not allowing that to occur you have to question what else is going on
I do make some exceptions, 11 isb for parties. (How late depends on the parents, but usually they slept over at parents I truested anyways so pick up wasn’t needed.)
The all had bikes and a pretty free childhood from early on (more “free” than most their friends) but I was strict to the minute I expected them home and it was always early. They get their freedom when they learn to drive a car is my motto. Iv done a decent job so far with 3/5
Just gotta raise these twins to hit 5/5 lol.
Your first teenager is like your first baby. You figure it all out together and the following kids are more parent/child. I don’t in ow how to put it.
Whatever you set with #1 will likely be the tone I think. (In my experience)
That all being said my kids are like me and early to bed early to rise... so it’s rarely been an issue as they we keen for bed usually lol.
All of them had their aunties number , my sister who is 17 years younger and in her 20s and my brother also in his 20s who they’ve called when “too drunk and don’t tell mum”
I know it’s happened on a handful of occasions due to my gut but my brother and sister have kept their trust and kept it between themselves.
They have about 5. Numbers they can call if they are too drunk / high/ stoned and/or in a bad place and need out but don’t want mum or sad to know. And I’m so grateful for the village around me that makes that happen. They’ve also got two of my friends number who they know are a a”safe” number to call, even if it’s to birch about me.
Another time same kid I think she was with a boy who I have warned her to stay clear of cos he wasn’t a good guy and I think she went anyways and got scared and it was just easier for her in a few situations to do that than lose her pride.
They’ve all made it through teen years relatively unscathed. My daughter was my most rebellious lol, she’s good now.
But it just helps with different personality types. My son always just called me or his uncle .My other son never got himself in positions he needed it lol.
I do subtlety remind her to not use & abuse my willingness to pick her up.
In saying that, I’d rather she got home safely than be left stranded.
There’s been a few times this year I have gone to pick her up at 11pm or even later from a party & ended up with a carload of teens because they had no way to get home - some parents have actually left them stranded because they had other plans or may have said to the kid they couldn’t go out but the kid went anyway.
It’s tricky knowing the right thing to do as a parent! Best of luck fellow teen raiser - we’ve got this!
I better run - it’s almost time to kill the vibe for the teen & pick her up lol
However my dumbass 13 yr old has been hanging out with 17 yr olds and told me he has been sneaking out of the house to catch up with them.
I want to meet the adult supervising and call police to do a check if there’s booze and drugs