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Do You think it’s fair for 7 kids aged 3 to 17 sharing 3 bedrooms ?

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5 years ago
It also depends on the sex of the kids

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5 years ago
The fact of the matter is, that regardless of sex, if she can't afford a bigger house she might just have to do so until she can be in a better place financially so in the mean time discuss with the kids, get them on board, make up chore charts etc discuss taking turns for cleaning etc. discuss amongst themselves (who are sharing) with you what the expectations should be with cleaning e.g. what is going to bother one an another and talk about agreeing to sticking to rules / boundaries. Consequences etc. if not pulling their weight and being hellish to the other person. Put strategies in place so that it isn't a big issue, work as a team and in fact your kids might turn out like great people who can live effectively with flat mates , share housing, partners etc in the future unlike the nightmares I have experienced that are so used to slothing and grubbing in their own space without consideration to others.

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5 years ago
So you share a bedroom with your flat mates? All homes share common areas where all of that can be learnt. Sexes of the kids do have something to do with it because most real estates have a formula they use when deciding how many people can live in a house and genders play a role in that. If there's only one boy and 5 girls the boy would need his own room.

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3 years ago
On what planet do real estates want to know the sex of your children? Or do you rent from housing commission cause they do

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5 years ago
I think the lesson should be that if you're going to have that many kids you need to prepare yourself for the costs of a bigger house. It's not the 1950s anymore where it's ok to have 8 kids in a 3x1, reality back then was larger houses were hard to come by and older kids didn't spend a lot of time in their bedrooms. It was just for sleeping and getting dressed. Studying was at the library and they were taking themselves to friends, sports or just hanging around so they would basically be gone all day and out of each other's faces. Today is totally different, siblings are dragged everywhere together until they are old enough to stay home on their own which is quite old these days. They do homework and study at home so if there's nowhere to study it's in their bedrooms. Having friends over has replaced just wandering around the streets or parks so if they share a room they can't get away from their siblings to spend time with their friends. You also have to hope that none of them have behavioural issues as it's not fair for siblings to have to share a room with that.

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5 years ago
How is your comment helpful? She clearly already has the kids here and alive and breathing, so your little lecture is not really useful and more just a change for you to get on your high horse. I'm not saying your comment is wrong, it's something we might all be thinking, but she's come here to ask a question and your response is not really helpful at all.

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5 years ago
It is helpful if it's true. She hasn't said that she already lives there or even that they're her kids. Quite a few comments here about sharing rooms and I was just pointing out its a different time. If you have 3 kids would you live in a 2 bedroom apartment? Ops question is basically the same.

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5 years ago
If she didn’t want the info once she has already had the kids, then why ask the question????

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5 years ago
She didn't actually say they were her kids. She could be talking about someone else. Just saying

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5 years ago
I think the lesson should be that you consider how you respond to people. You sound condescending. Last time someone spoke or wrote to me using that phrase was a parent or teacher.

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5 years ago
School teachers are the worst. Seriously. Do you people hear yourselves?

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5 years ago
Growing up we had my parents and 8 kids. 3 girls and 5 boys and oldest to youngest went girl, girl, boy, boy, boy, boy, girl, boy. I was the eldest and shared a room with my youngest brother because I used to get up to him through the night, my 2 sister's and the 2nd youngest boy shared a room and the 3 middle boys shared a room and mum and dad had a room. You make do with what you have and we are all still very close now. My partner and I have 3 kids between us, his son has his own room and the 2 girls share because we can't afford anything bigger than a 3 bedroom house right now

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5 years ago
No some people can't afford bigger houses & have to make do. Multiple bedrooms are a luxury not a need.

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5 years ago
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5 years ago
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5 years ago
Realistically that's how many of our parents grew up often more crammed in. If you can't afford more rooms then of course it's fair, it's life, what other option is there? Instead focus your energies on teaching them to understand each other's difference / age / respecting space/ boundaries, sharing duties to keep it clean, brainstorm agreeable expectations with business erc. Those skills will make them great colleagues, flatmates, partners etc

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5 years ago
You’ve nailed it!!!! This!! 👍🏼

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5 years ago
You guys either don't have teenagers or have never tried to make them share

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5 years ago
You clearly don't have very high expectations for how your teens / kids behave then

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5 years ago
That's like 2 kids/room with one extra in one. So, I think that's fair. I have 4 kids and they usually all end up sharing a bed at night anyway. They'll want to have a sleepover and will organise it amongst themselves. Drives me mad. Why the fuck did we buy 4 beds when we could have just bought one big one.

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5 years ago
That’s so sweet that they actually want to do that though and organise nicely amongst themselves. I hope my kids do this 🥰

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5 years ago
I have 3 kids and the two younger ones are always in a bed together! (They have their own beds) it drives me a bit nutty too, but its so sweet, they just love each other so much!

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5 years ago
Your kids still sound young, they probably won't be all jumping into the same bed as teens.

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5 years ago
Wait when they are older

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5 years ago
More info please. I'd put the 17 year old by themselves and pair the others up. Possibly if there is a big gap with the 17 year old and the others are younger i'd be putting the smaller ones in bunks and sharing. Study / homework wise etc. Also in a year they will be 18, possibly studying etc.

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5 years ago
That would mean 17 year old has room by them self and 3 kids in each other bedroom.

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5 years ago
What ages and sexes?

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5 years ago
Gender

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5 years ago
Really?? Didn't u learn your lesson last time about sex and gender??

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5 years ago
If you were applying for state housing they would not let you live in a house with less than 5 bedrooms and when your 17 year old turns 18 it would have to be 6 bedrooms. Just as a bit of a guideline because real estates probably use the same formula.

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5 years ago
If there's no other option then it has to be. You'll have to get the right combination according to age and sex. We were a family of 8 in a 3 bedroom house. Mum and dad had 1 room and 5 girls and 1 boy were put into the other 2 rooms with bunk beds. I was the youngest so I don't remember who went where but apparently it worked

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5 years ago
That depend on a whole lot of other factors. Ages, genders, kid's personalities, how big the rest of the house is etc. Ultimately if the choice is share or don't have anywhere to sleep, then they share.

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5 years ago
I agree with everyone else, it depends the ages.

If there's one teenager and a bunch of younger kids, I think the younger kids would love sharing and the teen would need some space.

However, if most of them are teens, it would be a bit much to have 3 in a room.

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5 years ago
It depends on the kids. I tried having my 2 young boys share a room for a year and it was horrible. They argued non-stop when they usually get along well. We would avoid having them share a room again as it didn't work for us.

In saying that my neighbours kids share rooms and love it because they are scared of the dark and not alone. It really depends on the kids personalities.

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5 years ago
How old are they all? I have teenagers and couldn't imagine them sharing that would be one very unhappy household. Under 10's I think are fine sharing but after that they need space. Is there a garage you can turn into a bedroom for the eldest? Or turn an old caravan into a bedroom.