How do you stop thinking?
Answered 2 years ago
How do you stop thinking and wanting someone? Been single for 10 years. Two years ago I met a nice man. First man I have trusted since my marriage split. We have a great friendship, and yes I would like more from him, though he doesnt know that. We were having sex spasmodically, but I have put a stop to that 3 months ago. And also cut back on seeing and chatting with him. He just wants friends, with benefits. But there is no benefits now as I am trying to be strong. I lie awake for hours at night thinking about him. Just makes me want him more. How do I stop thinking about him and wanting him more than a friend?
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Tell him, risk losing friendship.
Or cut him out of life like you're doing, ending friendship.
Both seem to end the friendship.
As for the stop thinking part. That's the hard bit!
I personally needed diazepam to get thru a hard breakup once where i couldn't sleep or id wake up with chest pain/anxiety cos i keep going thru things over and over and over in my head.
Sometimes (years later) i still feel sick to my stomach going over those last few days of the relationship/the breakup/the aftermath etc and can't sleep.
Good luck to you ♥