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wedding nerves....

Answered 3 months ago

Im engaged to my long term partner. It is something I thought I had wanted for a while now, and I was so happy when he did propose however, the past few weeks, I have had second thoughts. Is this normal? Talking about the future and making plans has me really anxious for some reason.

Is this normal???


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3 months ago
It wasn't for me I was anxious about money & the wedding but I was sure I wanted to marry him. I waited until later in life though because I guarentee to you if I'd married earlier in life there's no way we would have made it. I knew myself & I knew he could give me the support, love & understanding that I required. He was so different to the men I'd been with before, they'd never really understood me- at stages I thought they did but in the end they didn't. He's not perfect by any means but you need to know if the man you're going to marry is going to be able to provide you with what you need the most. If he can then you're winning. Trust that everything will be ok.

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3 months ago
OP here, thank you. Im doubting my trust and faith in us. We have had more than a few obstacles...

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3 months ago
Obstacles in my opinion don't mean it's a sign you shouldn't be together. We also had our trials before marrying but I feel like that was a good thing, it tested our relationship & forced us to recognized how much we needed & wanted each other & we haven't had any major problems since - that was over 10 years ago. But obviously every relationship is unique.

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3 months ago
I guess its trust, secret accounts, dating websites on ipad. I guess im just not sure anymore.

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3 months ago
Well i'm not going to lie that sounds bad. If he's doing it now you can pretty guarantee he'll progress into something worse later on once that new marriage shine has worn off. I'd be making a plan to get out if I were you. If you think it'll be hard now wait until you throw in joint finances and a couple of kids into the mix. I'm sorry it's going to tough.

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3 months ago
My cousin also had these doubts. Didn't want to go through with it but did. 11 days after the wedding they seperated. Speak to your fiance. Post pone if you need more time or walk away if you're not feeling it.

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3 months ago
The biggest mistake of my life was going through with a marriage I wasn't sure about. I knew deep down it was the wrong thing to do but for some stupid reason went with the flow because I didn't know how to extricate myself from the situation.
I left my partner for the love of my life after three years.
If you've got doubts, get out.