We have 90k saved together and I have 40k in an account of my own. I’m the breadwinner and this is money above and beyond my regular wage (travel, allowances etc) generally I spend my savings to pay for family holidays and expensive treats and things, it’s my way of saying thanks to the family for supporting my career. I spend that money how I want, and most of the time I choose to spend it on others. On my Husband, kids, parents, my in laws, my brother and his wife and kids, and on supporting disadvantaged kids and Aboriginal communities (literacy programs and health programs etc). It makes me feel good, that I’m giving something back. As an Aboriginal person I feel blessed to be able to do this.

If everything in my life turned to shit, I’d have a bit behind me I guess, but the money is there for me and for what I want to spend it on.

We both have free reign on the other account. If either of us want or need it, we chat about it and generally just buy it.

We figure you only live once. We are in a privileged position in that I earn good money (200-220k pa), but I think the things you spend it on says most about your Character. We don’t drive expensive cars we don’t live in a flash house, we choose to spend our money on beautiful experiences, other people we love, and people we’ve never met who are less fortunate than us.

I’m 36, we pay our bills, we’ve never been overseas, we travel interstate for a holiday every two years to see family, and we both work our backsides off trying to be good parents and good providers and balancing that with being good people.... I’m sure we bugger up the balancing act sometimes but we are only human.... our kids are 15, 8 and 5, they’re fed and clothed and happy.

I don’t always do things right, but I always try and do the right thing, in all facets of my life.

Hate the banks. All our cash is in a safe in the house

I used to have a joint savings account with my husband. He would get drunk and transfer money out of it for booze and smokes and i started to realize it was only me putting money in for him to spend!
So i made him go in and close it with me. And now everything is separate accounts. He claims he has "so much more money saved than you". But i really fucking doubt it

24k
Partner doesn't know about.
He has so much debt from payday loans from so much wants, he'd try to blow it all on frivolous shit if he knew about it.

Yes.
And all women should have their own accounts and be in control of their own money. I’ve been in the same relationship for many years and women don’t put enough emphasis on maintaining independence in a relationship. Lost count of the number of 40 and 50 something women who I have had to help at work with relationship breakdowns who have little or no education and no means to be able to get meaningful employment or be financially responsible for themselves.

Why? Do you think we should?

The house is mine. So no. He’s the one in the shit if we split, I actually have been wondering lately if that’s why he hasn’t left. Life is too easy for him with me. Lately I don’t even think he likes me. Today I’m sitting here wondering if I should just tell him to go.

We have about $80g in an online account that only I have access to.

No. I rely on my husband for money. 100% of the money in my account (about $9.38) came from him. I receive no centrelink, and can sometimes manage to put aside bits and pieces of cash for myself. But otherwise, no. It makes me uneasy, but it is what it is. Thankfully, I have no current plans to leave the marriage. So I don't need a seperate stash.

We both bought similar level of assets and both earn similar so it hasnt really been an issue.

Yes I always have money squirrelled away in my house, I try not to let it fall below $3000. I just like to keep it there because I hate not having money when I want to buy something or go shopping.

No. All our money is in a joint account that we both have access to.

No, all our money is in our joint accounts. We don't need to roll like that. And yes, critique all you like but in 50 years we'll still be the way we are today: all in, we are together til we die. And we're actually happy. Loyal honest and happy I'm our family.

Nope. Everything we have is together.

Hell yes. I went into the relationship successful and quite wealthy through my own making. Husband gets no claim in that and I told him so in no uncertain terms before we got married. I have all girls and will be encouraging them to have their own accounts and money and not rely on their husbands.

Yes, infact I swapped my sons into my account too, to ensure his father my ex cant touch it if something happens to me. Its not much but as a single mum who lives pay to pay its something and its important to me that I have something to give my son if I die.

I have a shitload from an inheritance. Hubby only know half the amount 😂

Yes not much, most goes in a joint account.

Not really. We each have separate accounts as well as a joint account, but there’s not much in mine at the moment. Once I’m done with unpaid maternity leave and back working my savings will skyrocket.

yep

We each have $1000 in our own accounts, but it's more just a small backup if we can't access our joint account for some reason.

Nearly 20,000 - our money is in my account