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I've had this issue too. I don't think it's fair that Santa delivers an abundance of gifts for my SD if she isn't with us for Christmas morning. So this year because she won't be here Christmas morning, she will get a large decent priced gift from us and Santa at her mums house. When she is with us for Christmas morning , she gets the same as our two kids. It's not fair that she gets two santas if you see what I mean? Having said that, she never goes without.
I don't get the whole my kids and his kids.... Your together doesn't that mean they are all yours and his kids( that makes sense I hope)
If you fed up of spending all Your money, ask him for some and go buy all the kids the same amount of presents. And say all presents are from ye both.
It they're coming in the evening then they would have already gotten presents from their mum etc in the morning, so if you got then the same amount as your kids then the step kids would have gotten more presents, unless your kids are getting presents from somewhere else too. make the dad step up, why should you have to do all the shopping for his kids if he does nothing for yours?
SD lives with us full time so yes all kids get the same (roughly) - I try to be as fair as possible. They're OUR kids, not his and mine (even though only the youngest is our child together)
Get money off hubby and buy them more. It's not fair if you split everything half in the household and you buy all presents. Factor in mum gives stepkids gifts too
Won't that make them feel less
On Christmas? 😢
We actually spend more on my SD daughter because she's a teenager and teenage things are just more expensive.
I get half of what I plan to spend from hubby and do all the shopping. We have custody of 3 of his cousins' kids. I spend equally on them to our son.
I guess it depends on her age. Hubby should really put in for her 'presents from Santa' at her mums house and the other gift is from you.
I try to be fair with kids. I have no step kids but do make sure that my step-nephew gets the same spent on him as my niece. In my opinion they are both family and deserve to be treated equally.
When it comes to Christmas it's pretty even, although this year SD will be getting a new bike and a few little things but BD will be getting more to open but monetarily SD will still come out in front BUT thats not really a thing for us... If that makes sense?
I don't have step kids but I have step nephews and I spend the same on them as all my nieces and nephews get - $20 each. Their bio father is deceased so we try to make Xmas as cheerful as possible for them :)
I don't worry about what she gets at her mother's home - that's at her mother's and has nothing to do with us (and they wrap everything individually, like a toothbrush, to make it seem like more). The stuff her mother gives her doesn't come to ours and vice versa; so when she's here she gets what's fair to her 1/2 siblings. She's not treated any differently.
I wouldn't stress too much. Last year I made sure it was even and my partners kids gave my kids a hard time about how they got more presents and listed what their mum gave them. I have got them some fantastic stuff this year but it's not even.