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Should I say sorry?

Answered 2 years ago

About 10 yrs ago when I was young and naive I made comments about someone behind their back regarding their motives on their new relationship. Afterwards I felt bad and realised I shouldn’t have done it. About five years ago she found out and posted a statement on FB saying she knew who it was and what was said. Since then I have wanted to apologise to her and always thought I would try and do it in person but we are in different states. We are in the same industry which is very small and we will run into each other. Last night I had a thought I should just send her an apology letter/ card but then I got scared that it might bring up all that old hurt for her? Should I send it anyway?


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2 years ago
I bet she hasn't forgotten about it. Maybe be prepared to apologize when you run into her.

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2 years ago
Why post a statement on Facebook? This I don't get and I'd probably why you feel like writing. I like the idea of mentioning when meeting, face to face defuses things. Otherwise sit on it for one month then decide, no brash decisions!

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2 years ago
If you guys dont talk now, if you send the apology what's the worst that can happen?

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2 years ago
It was 10 years ago... If it comes up apologise for being young and stupid but otherwise I'd leave it. Write a letter and don't send it if you need to do something to make yourself feel better. But seriously, it was 10 years ago!

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2 years ago
Leave it in the past.

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2 years ago
Depends if you are apologising to make yourself feel better or because you think she would appreciate it. If its just to make yourself feel better then no

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2 years ago
No

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2 years ago
She might think she knows who did it but it could be wrong. Surely after so long they would have gotten over it. I'd write an apology letter and not send it. Write the letter to clear your conscious

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2 years ago
I would, then it also clears your mind. However, she may react badly but at least you know you did the right thing.