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Question for dog lovers. The ones who really feel it’s another child.

Answered 2 years ago

While I get how much dogs can mean to other why do a lot of dog owners get so damn offended when you don’t like their dog, iv had at least 4 dogs brought around to my house. I grew up with dogs , I use to enjoy my dogs butsimething in my second pregnancy I couldn’t stand the smell and from then on I just don’t care for dogs and can’t stand their smell.
My daughter also got nipped at by a wandering jack Russell that found its way into your yard and she’s been petrified of dogs since.
They honestly act like iv just stabbed them in the heart when I say, we really don’t like dogs at our house if you come again could you not bring them.
Or if I see them when we’re at the park and their dogs all over me, I tried to hide my skin crawling but it’s hard I don’t like them.


Iv tried to explain it a few times to some of them and get nowhere they just look so sad that I could possibly hate their 3rd (very stinky ) child.


What’s a way you would respond to in this situation?

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2 years ago
I keep my back yard fence non-dog friendly so people don't ask me to mind their dog when they go away. Unfortunately we just get asked to feed the dog (or cat) at their houses instead, usually at the last minute when it backs us into a corner because they have no alternative.
If you get a dog, pay a minding service or kennel. We don't all enjoy cleaning up dog (or cat) poo, looking for bored escapee pets & not being able to go anywhere, sometimes for weeks, while the pet's owners party.

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2 years ago
Bringing your dog to someones else's house without their permission is just rude!

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2 years ago
Well I’m glad this seems to be more the norm and iv just got some rude people around me

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2 years ago
Yeah I have a dog who's a bit "babied" and I would never take him to someone else's house. It's rude.

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2 years ago
I am a cat person, I told my dog lover friend I didn't want her to bring her dog in my house, she says no it's okay dog doesn't chase cats, (dog kept chasing and barking at my cats), and would not get the message I DO NOT WANT YOU dog in MY house. Was so awkward.

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2 years ago
I just don’t get why anyone thinks it’s ok the bring their animals to other people’s houses

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2 years ago
“That I could possibly hate their 3rd very stinky child” ... they probably don’t like your stinky kids either but it seems like they need to learn to respect your wishes that you just don’t like dogs! I wouldn’t be rude about it but you really need to tell your friends not to bring dogs to your house.
No dogs!

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2 years ago
First of all children are bathed every day and aren’t animals. So no a well cared for kid does not stink. That line kinda sums up how they take offense.
It’s a dog, dogs stink. They are animals. Even fresh out of a bath they still smell like a clean dog, but a dog none the less.
I don’t hate them I used that line because that seems to be their impression as the offense is taken deeply.

I will make it clearer to the other three, one just didn’t listen and Brough my her big husky 3 times after the third time I stopped having her around .

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2 years ago
I wouldn’t let anyone bring their stinky dog to my house. I’m a cat person. They’re clean, don’t shit all over the garden and aren’t attention seekers or destroy things.
My best friend once bright her dog to my house and I said he husband had to take him home because my poor cat was frightened to death of him. I won’t have my cat feeling like he can’t be comfortable in his own environment abc I certainly won’t have any dog shitting in my yard

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2 years ago
Dude you're kidding yourself! I have a cat, I love that thing, I'm a cat person, I don't like dogs, but cats stink too and shit in the neighbours garden if you keep it outside, otherwise they stink up the litter tray.
But yeah I hate when people try to tell me their dogs like cats and I say yes but I don't really want your dog at my house cos it's my house, but they ignore it and their "furbaby 🐶 " tries to eat my "furbaby 🐱"

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2 years ago
I would never take my dogs to someone else’s house without permission. Even then, probably not!

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2 years ago
I love dogs. They are part of the family. But they aren’t my babies. A while ago one of our dogs died, which left me devastated, and when my 8yo so saw my tears he said he himself wasn’t feeling sad. He wasn’t happy he died, just not feeling the loss like I did. I didn’t take offence. He and the dog weren’t friends. There was no bond there. It would have been upsetting if he pretended to feel something he didn’t.