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Dont stress about it, f**k him, if he cant help the kids celebrate you then dont worry yourself celebrating him, he dosnt seem worth it. Also i cant remember any fathers day from childhood (we did celebrate it and my parents are still together)... i dont think your kids will care either way.
What ever you do, keep it simple, maybe just a nice meal together or something, we need to all work together to limit these money making bullshit holidays/occasions.
His comment "you're not my mother"
Well, he's set the bar now, he can get f**ked! I've bought bacon & eggs for Father's Day, that's it. Same deal with Christmas now, I won't buy 'my own gift' from 'him' anymore. I'll let the kids question "Dad, where's your present for Mum?"
You’re not his mum
And by his same standards, I should stop doing any organising & celebrating the day with his mum, the kids granny. He can do it all himself now.
What does it have to do with being your mum?
You’re the mother of HIS CHILDREN. The one that wipes their arses, listens to “mum, mum, mum” all day long prepares their meals along with HIS makes sure their lunches are packed and all their special shit they need for kindergarten or school isn’t forgotten, the one that remembers every god damn detail and then we get ‘you’re not my mum’?
Mate I wouldn’t have bought bacon and eggs for father’s day if you didn’t even get wished a happy mother’s day! Cook it for brekky on Friday and then offer a bowl of cereal on Sunday 🤣
Rise Above. Help your kids show love to their dad. That's what it's about.
Nothing after my husbands behaviour tonight
You need to create a day your kids will love, but will just annoy him. Buy a cheap gift (and I mean something from the reject shop), and do something the kids will love. Maybe get him to take the kids out for day.
I got the your not my mum too. I have planned a lovely day for father's day , my parents are coming over and I'm making a lovely lunch. The kids will see me making an effort, but my husband will be upset as it's his day and we are celebrating with my family.
Ignore it for once. See if f he cares. Put effort into your own Mother’s Day next year instead
I think ignore the memory argument, they won’t remember it if it is going through the motions, but he will if you miss it. We are kind of enabling this culture so I opted out of it a few years back, and things have been great since