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Parents In-law have moved in not far away from us. Mother in law expects to be invited over every time we host dinner, bbq or play date with anyone. Is it unreasonable to have separate visits ? Every time I say that we can’t do something as we have someone over or having dinner at our place with friends she invites herself. She is nosy and judgmental and we can’t relax and enjoy ourselves.


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4 years ago
You people need to grow up and just say no

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4 years ago
It’s actually not that easy. OP needs to keep her in-laws feelings in mind because it can actually damage the relationship.

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4 years ago
Op here, exactly. Mother in law came to conclusion recently that family is everything and can’t understant why we wouldn’t want to spend all our free time with her. Why do we need friends if we have her nearby. Hasn’t bother her for past twenty years that we have our own life.

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4 years ago
OMG my mother-in-law was like that. She use to live across the road from us (think Everyone Love Raymond)!!!!! We moved away, (Thank God). But she still expected to be invited every time we had someone here. I told her straight out it wasn't going to happen. There is a time and place for when I invited her. You have to set boundaries or it will cause trouble in your marriage. Good luck!!!!

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4 years ago
Perhaps stop giving her so many details about your life. Either don't answer the phone if she rings and you've got someone over, or just tell her you're busy without explaining it further.

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4 years ago
MIL might come over to see why she's not answering the phone 🤣

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4 years ago
Then don’t open the door!

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4 years ago
lol

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4 years ago
That’s awful. Set boundaries.

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4 years ago
Id stick a For Sale sign up in front of my house today, then rent another house next week to live in till the house sells.

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4 years ago
Lol

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4 years ago
Straight out tell her no. It’s not hard. Are you a weakling around her? Don’t let her push you around. And stop telling her stuff.

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4 years ago
Your husband needs to sort this out. He has to set some boundaries with his mother.

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4 years ago
You definitely need to establish boundaries with them. I had to with my in-laws. Your husband needs to do it though.

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4 years ago
Are their names frank and Marie ?

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4 years ago
Crash their parties

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4 years ago
Um that is not acceptable and she should not just invite herself over when you have guests. You need to tell her she needs to call and ask before hand and not turn up when she knows you have guests.

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4 years ago
It's very reasonable and normal to have activities she's not invited to. You (or preferably your husband) need to put your foot down. Let her know you do want to see her but it's important to have times just with your friends. Also don't tell her they are coming over. If you can't go to something, just say you can't go, don't feel the need to explain why you can't go.

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4 years ago
Or, if you can't tell her, say you're going out to your friends place, or you have a meeting. I don't think there's anything wrong with using white lies to protect boundaries or feelings.