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My boyfriend and his kids (8 & 10 respectively) moved into my house. Not exactly what I wanted but he had to sell due to litigation from the ex wife and covid lockdown. Trying to make the best of it.
Anyway
Short story. I live in a four bedroom, one living area, open kitchen to dining situation . Great for me and my much older kids (late teens) x 2.
I was happy to move in together in a situation where we Looked for a house that suited our situation and all our needs.... my house was never discussed as an option.
So here we are.
I work long hours full time as a nurse
I have structured a lot of my shift work around all the kids, his included because we have them on a 50/50 split.
But I am just frazzled. They come over and I am relegated to my bedroom. I just bought a new couch to accoModate all of us and it was delivered Thursday ... I’ve not sat on it because they are here and they literally inhabit my main living area on their gaming console. I have spent the whole time when not at work and I come home to being shoved in my bedroom to watch anything other than what is deemed a kids show.

I am fucking miserable
We have been together for 5 years but he always had his own place.
I don’t know what to do


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4 years ago
I think you are amazing to take on the care of your partners kids. My kids are teens and I’m looking forward to some me time.
Can you rent out your place you get the income and rent a bigger place with both of you dividing the costs.
There are four of us here and in Covid Melbourne lockdown. We have three beds a formal lounge and study an entertainment and kitchen area and upstairs study and spare room. Also an outdoor deck where I sometimes do work. This space Is just enough for three adults and one teen.
You need more space when everyone is home.

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4 years ago
Agree with other answers, some rules need to be set. Is there anywhere else they can have their video games, even in the garage?

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4 years ago
Its your home remember that. You should make rules and they should abide them. Kick them out

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4 years ago
Rules and boundaries. If you don’t put them in place then morning is going to change. Sit everyone down, talk about what is and isn’t acceptable, wire up house rules for everyone to see and reclaim your space and your home.

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4 years ago
Kick them out! Tell him you are not coping and he needs to find his own place. You said you shifted your work shifts around but has he made any sacrifices?

I won’t cope in this situation either. Good luck


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4 years ago
Maybe it’s time for a discussion on how to make it better or easier