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Stuck in the middle

Answered 1 year ago

Today - and many, many others - my Mum and sister have been both trying to drag me into a minor disagreement they are having. Both have valid points but I don't want to get involved.

My problem is that I really struggle to not worry about it. I am a chronic peacemaker and "fixer" and hate people I care about disagreeing. How do I stop obsessing about other people's feelings and just let them sort it out?


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1 year ago
I suspect focusing on others is your way of distracting from your own unhappiness/anxiety. You focus on you

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1 year ago
I suspect you’re assuming she has anxiety and isn’t happy. You don’t know her so stop trying to be her psychologist.

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1 year ago
No this is my observation from myself and a lot of people I know, I’m free to give my advice but if you’re just here to chime in whether it passes your standards then I think you’re just a miserable cow who is unhappy too.

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1 year ago
Seemly everybody is unhappy according to you. You are doing something called PROJECTING.

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1 year ago
I’m not a miserable unhappy cow. I’m happy and loving life. You’re assuming there’s something wrong with her. She didn’t need to hear that.

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1 year ago
Giddy up babe 👍

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1 year ago
It isn’t easy but you have to change your mindset.
And how you do that is through practice. Tell your mum and your sister and everyone else trying to drag you into this spat that you do not wish to get involved. It’s between them and nothing to do with you.

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1 year ago
So if that's how you feel then just tell them that and then leave and go do something you enjoy.

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1 year ago
Have a wine and calm your farm and stay out of peoples business

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1 year ago
Probably a bit hard when her family are trying to drag her into it.

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1 year ago
^ I agree. The other person needs to read the post properly before casting judgement