I'm raising my kids at home and my husband every weekend/2nd weekend will go out, promising me he will come home BUT the
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I'm raising my kids at home and my husband every weekend/2nd weekend will go out, promising me he will come home BUT then stays out the ENTIRE night, doesnt contact me, ignores my calls/messages and comes home the next day all apologetic, I'm a terrible person, I will never do it again blah blah. he stays out drinking, gambling and socializing apparently. I'm so sick and tired of this behaviour. What do i do?
he did this to me 2days before I went into labour, then started up again when bubs was 3 weeks old...who does that? This is meant to be someone who loves me...I have lost complete trust in him and feel so disrespected...what do I do ? Hes a great dad to the kids and i feel so stuck and dont know how I could leave. so I'm here for the kids but honestly if it was just me i would have left years ago.
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Your only real option is to take your power back - skill up, squirrel money away, get counselling for confidence, find your own income. If you're not dependent on him you have the power to leave - or make him improve his behaviour. But you'll have options. Don't tell him you're doing this as he'll probably try to stop you as you're right where HE wants you.
Tbh he won't truly improve. A friend's H is like this & although he agreed to counselling I can see he works out the absolute minimum he can do & how to get away with living & spending freely while his wife is at home. She's stuck in a miserable cycle but won't help herself. So please look after yourself. It's scary but worthwhile.