Do I have to be nice to my ex?
Answered 3 years ago
We have a daughter together he has seen twice since she was born, she is will be 1 in a few days. Every now and again he will message, sometimes about her sometimes to see what is happening within my life. I want to keep conversations about child only but I’m concerned if I’m not nice that when I have to eventually go for full custody the judge will frown down upon me not keeping the peace by engaging in conversation with him. Obviously ideally he would be apart of my daughter’s life but he has chosen not to bother. Is there any way to casually say that I only want to talk about child and not about anything else?
As an idea the last conversation he was fishing for info on my private life relationship wise, surely I don’t need to discuss that with him.
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Just keep all communication about the child. If he asks questions about your personal life, redirect the conversation towards your little one. For example if he says, “so how’s it going? Are you seeing anyone?” respond with, “We have been well, thanks for asking. I hope you are also well? Let me know if you’d like to arrange a visit with (child’s name)?”
I think if you keep the communication on topic and keep ignoring personal questions he’ll get the hint.
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But if he is prying reply something like
“Hey listen, more than happy to keep lines of communication open about ****. Any time you wanna organise your see her ect let me know, but my life is my life and I will keep it that way.
Let’s keep communication about ****. “