Do you feel you reap what you sow, with relationships?
Answered 5 years ago
My mum recently gained a very large inheritance. As mum doesn't really need much money she has given a lot to my sister and I, and a lot has been put aside for all the grand kids.
Mum hasn't given anything to her husband's children or grandchildren, not to be unkind, but because she hasn't ever had relationships with any of them. They are both very close to their dad and have never approved of mum, my sister and I so we don't really know them. For example mum wasn't invited to his daughter's weddings or their children's christening despite being married to their dad.
My mum's husband had a go at me for not dividing up the money equally (Not sure why as I didn't have any to do with it). I am seeing him to tomorrow for lunch at mum's and I'm very nervous and not sure how to proceed and what to say when it gets brought up.
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Your mum has made her decision, that's all you need to say if the wanker said anything
It's her money to do with how she pleases. Why didn't her husband get involved when she wasn't invited to family occasions on the husband's side & stand up for her? Another anomily ......
Your mother is speaking now
If he does so in front of anyone else it’s disrespectful especially if in front of your mother.
I would simply have a line or two ready to go.
Laura, hows that money going for you, nice of you to share with Sarah and Rachel”
“In sorry you feel that way John, but it’s not a discussion that is fair to be having as my it was my mums decision how she shared her gift and I don’t wish to discuss it”
Something that doesn’t show disrespect just the fact you don’t want to be talking about it full stop.
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Maybe he made your mum feel awkward about the money not going to his kids so she made out it was you who divided it up
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Only met them 4 times in 5 years