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Why should my husband work to pay child support?

When his ex won't work?

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Because at once point he played hide the sausage and that resulted in a child. That child is his responsibility too which means he is responsible for providing for the child until the child reaches 18. The mother should work, but maybe there are factors you dont know about which is why she isnt' working. He should pay child support as you would expect her to if the situation was reversed and the father had the child . As his or her step mum you should want the best for them. Not for them to be financially penalised due to their parents situation.

 Regardless of what the mother chooses to do, the dad has a responsibility to provide for his child. Time to grow up and put the kids first people.
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 So we should give her hundreds of dollars a week so she can sit at home all day?
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This can't be a serious question. What kind of father wouldn't be happy to support his child??!!! You should be ashamed of yourself.

 I could never be with a man that doesn't want to support his children!
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 My ex is trying to get out of paying child support and hasn't had anything to do with our kids in nearly 2 years and "can't get a job because then his child support payments will go up." Some genius still thought it was a good idea to have a baby with him lol. Which I found out about off one of his family members, apparently it's "none of my business" that my kids have another sibling. Yup I picked a real fricking gem there didn't I haha
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 ^ do we have the same ex? He goes and has babies when he can’t look after the ones he has now, then after he gets sick of the mother leaves and doesn’t do a thing to support them.
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 Yeah and my favourite bit was he couldn't do it anymore, needed to go back to his single, care free life and less than a year later has another baby on the way. And she has 3 or 4 kids that are in docs or being cared for by their fathers full time, so I don't think she's all there either. I have nothing against women who have different baby daddies, but for God sake look after the ones you've got before popping out more! So essentially they are a perfect match lol
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Whatever he is expected to pay I could guarantee it wouldn't be enough. Is it enough to cover half the rent, water, gas, electricity, clothes, school expenses, health care costs, insurances, portion of the groceries, fuel and vehicle costs??? Now justify it. Please. Entertain us.

 A mate of mine is paying $150 a week in child support for 1 kid. I keep asking if we can switch and he can be my baby daddy and his ex can have mine. I get $34 a month. I am a firm supporter of it should be a set amount, not based on what you earn.
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 It's to do with the difference in living standards too. Obviously if dad earns 100k and mum 20k the difference in living standards for the child at each parents house is going to be way different, so it's to keep it balanced for the child
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 I’m one of the lucky ones and receive $1250/ month.
I also work full time

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 ^$1250 is almost reasonable. Unless you think about division of labour!! The non primary-custodial parent has a waaaay better deal than anyone ever realises!!
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WTF!!! You are crying about $40 a week??!!!!
You need to have a long hard look at yourself in the mirror. Then headbutt the mirror repeatedly. Hopefully it knocks some bloody sense into you, woman.

 $40 a week is nothing
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 It's a bit much to expect that then give us her half of the school fees bill too. We won't pay it so it doesn't matter.
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 A bit much to expect $40 a week plus half the school fees??? There are people out there paying tens of thousands of dollars in cs every year who would live to differ with you I'm sure! 😂
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 I'm sure they would.
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why dont they both get a job?

 Who knows? Ask them?
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That's what happens when you have kids. You pay for them. If you had kids with any ex, you'd like child support, as well, should you be entitled to it.

 We pay more for them that the mum does, actually tax payers pay her share.
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 What % of your income goes to the kids compared to the % she spends on her kids? I spend 100% of my income on my household and my kids needs.
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 I don't know what percentage it would be, but a lot if you count the house and bills. I do spend a bit on myself that isn't to do with the kids, I guess my car isn't for the kids but dad's is. Dad spends a bit on hobbies that aren't kid related. I guess 70% goes on the kids or things they benefit from. I imagine their mum spends 99% of her income on the kids, bit it's her choice to stay home.
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Every night when i get my kids to do the dishes one of them always tries to get out of it. They will be sick or need to sit on the toilet for 20 minutes and hope its all finished when they get out. This makes the other child understandably upset and he kind of goes on strike and says, "If Bob isn't doing it I'm not doing it either!" or "I'm not starting until Bob is here!", "Why should I have to do it if Bob isn't doing it!!!".

Anyway, point to my little story is you and hubby remind me of my kids.

 I really hope you didn't call your kid Bob
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 No I didn't but I think it's the cutest name ever, bound for a come back one day 😂
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Wow... What a bunch of unsupportive women! Some rather rude comments here. Perhaps you need to share more details OP? As I’ve been in a similar situation and he paid more than he had to, as she wouldn’t use it for the kids and expected it to continue on even after the kids were adults. We often wondered if it was worth it ourselves.

 I understand that this may have been the case for you and some others, but yes I would assume the birth mother has young kids that possibly need a lot of care.
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 You are just projecting your own situations onto this without knowing anything at all. Assume assume assume.
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 Hmmm, assume assume assume because I bet in 95% of cases, it's true, no matter how you want to portray it!
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 Oh yeah, we are the unsupportive ones...OP is bitching about paying $40 a week to support 2 children😐
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 We pay a lot more than that considering they are here half the time.
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Sorry was having a winge. My husband does pay child support along with having 50/50 care. I was a bit annoyed yesterday as the idiot sent bills along with the kids. I understand that being on Newstart means she can only just get by, but seriously the kids are at school get a bloody job!

 I think some mothers get stuck in the system, they're too terrified to go back into the big wide world & work.
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 It's not hard to get a part job in retail. You just walk in with resume ask for the manager & talk to them.
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 Depends where you live! Were I live jobs are very hard to come by. My friend went for a job interview recently and was told that they are getting upwards of 500 applicants for the 1 job.
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 I don't know why, there isn't contact unless absolutely necessary. We will just send the bill back next week.
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 I don't think you have 50/50 care. If you did whatever child sport would be f all.
Secondly have a bit of compassion. It is very hard getting a foot back in the door after having kids. Respect that she's put her career and life on hold to raise his children. You're a selfish liar.

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 You should have put this in earlier. Yes, it’s hard to get a job (I know, I’m trying right now) especially after being a sahm, but until she does she just needs to budget a little better. Sure, things like books and shoes should be halved, but if dad and mum have 50/50 custody, there shouldn’t be any child support, just halves in major expenses (school, sports, and so on). I can understand your frustration.
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 Thanks, we do have 50/50, and while it's only $40 a week for two kids it's frustrating when she sends bills. The only split cost is school fees, everything else is pay your own. So any birthday parties or school excursions if it's on your week you pay for it. All clothes and toys stay at the house of the parent who bought it.
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 Your husband should definitely quit his job to save $40😂
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 $40 a week? Sounds like he's already quit!
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I can totally understand your frustration!! It can be very difficult in this situation.

Cause she wants you to pay for her lifestyle didn't you know?

 Hahaha! Lifestyle! What if the bio mum is left with a disabled, high needs, or sick child! I guarantee there will be no, or very little "lifestyle" for her. Any man who does not provide financial support to the mother for the children that she is no doubt raising very well deserves no respect. Same goes if she is raising very young children and the birth father is off chasing women and taking drugs. He can support financially at the very least while he is off having his "lifestyle".
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 Did you not read that they have 50/50 care?
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 💩💩💩💩💩
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 Um, she only added that later, but thanks for pointing that out. What difference does it make, though. The mother is a single parent. The father is not. Therefore there are two adults sharing the load on one end and only one on the other. Also, she is on Newstart. You do not get that forever.
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Unbelievable that you could even have this thought. Guess what they are his responsibility and he has to support them by law but he should also want to!! They are his kids for goodness sake. The fact you even say this proves how little they mean to you. And obviously the kids are young or else the mum would be working as that is now centrelink rules however while they are little I agree with her staying home if possible a little bit of work will probably cover childcare and that's it!

 Its not obvious that they are. She said the mum is on newstart.
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Well he has to work anyway so he needs to share with his kids. You're an idiot. I hope he leaves you too and his new wife bi****s about paying child support for the spawn you 2 share.

Omg same boat BUT she works cash as a self employed osteopath with a masters and bachelors degree!!!!!!!! Then we pay her $300 a week. We’re barely surviving. I can’t even afford to pay my car rego or my daughters camp and we work like hell

 This is why I don’t date men with a kid or kids
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 Fair enough.
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 Odd profession to be working cash especially when most of her customers would have private health insurance and it would need to be on the books to claim insurance! Pensioners are probably eligible for rebate as well which means it has to be legit. She is probably just keeping her income down while the business earns more.
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 We have the same issue with a beautician doing cash jobs. Fu****g hope she gets done by the tax office.
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Everyone should work. Not just for child support, but just to be productive contributing members of society!

 Hmm, being home and raising your children is also being a productive contributing member of society if this is what you choose to do!
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 ^^^ Agree with this comment 100%! I hear what original commenter is saying, though. Someone should not work "to pay child support", although they bloody well should! They should work regardless. I feel the only ones that don't need to are the primary carers of young children and/or those who are caring for disabled or sick children. They are making more than a significant contribution.
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 And also, I know of others whose husbands/partners have jobs that require a lot of travel, being away weeks, months at a time, odd hours. It is totally reasonable that the mother not work out of the home and hold the fort with the children.
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 If someone can afford not to work due to their partner earning enough to support them, I have no issue with that, even if the kids are at school or grown up.
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 Me either, it is her and her partners business.
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