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I’m having an affair with my boss and I think I’m pregnant

The baby isn’t his it’s my boyfriends. I don’t want my boyfriend to find out about my husband or affair because I’m in love with him. My husband thinks the baby is his because he found the pregnancy test. I haven’t told boyfriend or boss yet. My boss said he would fire me if I was sleeping with anyone but him. I’m not sure what to do. Help!

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So you have a boyfriend, a husband and your boss? How can you be sure the baby is your boyfriends? Sounds like an episode of jerry springer.
Well what a weird situation you got yourself in.

OP My boss has had a vasectomy and my husband was away around the time when I fell pregnant
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 HOW can you be sure boss has had a vasectomy ? I wouldn’t take his word. Also, seeing as you have multiple partners, and very possibly at the very least your boyfriend and boss also have multiple partners, wouldn’t condoms be a better idea?
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OP I trust that he wouldn’t lie to me about that. My boyfriend and husband aren’t cheating on me with anyone they aren’t like that
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 ^ you shouldn’t trust it. So dangerous, and stupid.
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Thanks for the soap opera storyline ... gave me a chuckle 😂

I call BS on this one. Not only bcoz it's a ridiculous scenario but...
How would your husband find the pregnancy test? If I did a PT and there was a chance my hubby wasn't the father, I would have burried it at the bottom of the bin on bin day...

 Agree but for future reference, the best place to hide things in the bin is in the middle towards the bottom.
At the top someone might see it or if the bin tips over it could be revealed. At the bottom, if the bin doesn't fully empty, you can be busted. In the middle, towards the bottom (say 2/3rds of the way down) is the best bet.

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 Or hide it in your neighbours bin?
Or dispose of it at the shops?
Easier then hiding it strategically in the middle of the bin.

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 ^fair point, but not always possible.
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OP I left it in our bathroom bin that he never uses. He ended up throwing out the toilet roll for the first time in his life and found it
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Join a union. Quit sleeping with boss or quit that job. If boss unfairly dismisses you, go to union. Leave the husband. Run off with boyfriend. Next time don't allow yourself to get in this situation.

OP How do I join a union?
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 Try googling unions for the type of work you're in, call them to see if they are the right one for you or they can help find the right union to join. Explain the situation and they will inform you on your rights and kick a*s for you
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OP Thank you I am going to join on Monday. I’m only 7 weeks so can hide it from my boss for a while until the union can help me sort it out
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If you want a solution to your s**t-baggery, try getting off of your back

 Bahahaha! Love it
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OP I wasn’t always on my back
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 Bahaha at least the OP isn't lazy in bed
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Stop being a tart. Give the baby up for adoption. You arent responsible enough to look after yourself let alone a child.

OP I couldn’t give the baby up for adoption. It isn’t on the cards
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 Abortion then. Don’t bring a baby into this fu***d up mess
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I would have kept this all to myself. You must be very naive and immature to think that other women would be on your side. Best outcome give the baby up for adoption and grow up yourself.

OP I couldn’t give the baby up for adoption. I have no reason to. I couldn’t do that to this baby when I have 2 other children I am raising
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 You already have kids? To your husband? And you’re cheating on him, what kind of peice of shit person are you?
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Is your husband, boss and boyfriend the same nationality? I would be worried if your husband was from Fiji, your boss from India and your boyfriend from Scotland. If they are the same basic nationality the only thing that can catch you out is a DNA test and that is not likely if the new baby is healthy. Good luck. I have to ask......which one is the best in the sack?

OP Yes they are all similar enough
My boss is the best in the sack

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 It is easy to guess the Nationality... Greek.
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 ^yeah I thought that too haha
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OP No they are all Australian with European heritage
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I feel sorry for your unborn child. You have 9 or less months to sort your shit out. Also, might be wise to get tested for stds right now.

OP I get tested every 3 months. Thank you for a good answer
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 Every 3 months? Not often enough. Get tested now and stop sleeping with so many people at once. Time to get some morals.
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 Don’t think this person even knows the meaning of the word morals
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