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It’s the sort of situation where do you want to be right or happy?
Yes you should be able to post it but if you want a cordial relationship with her then why do/continue to do something that’s counter productive to that.
So it’s your choice, you can be happy or cause your partner and his kids more grief cos then there’s two immature women in the situation.
It’s not that big a deal to not post photos of them if it means avoiding a conflict.
Conflit-not posting a photo.
It doesn’t really even seem to be a choice to me. Is this how important posting photos is? That it’s a hard choice between that and conflict for not just ourselves but others we love?
It’s a no brainer.
The kids are being groomed by mum
Is your need that great that you’d rather a whole bunch of people around you get offended one way or the other.
Good luck with all the conflict in your life. Sounds like your gonna need it
Can’t you just not post photos then? Is your need that great that you’d rather a whole bunch of people around you get offended one way or the other.
I not after validation. I wanted a discussion to see all points. My understanding of what was written is is that I should stop posting photos because one parent said no even though the other parent and children said yes. And that if I stop posting photos to appease the ex then I'll upset the partner and children. And if I just stop posting all photos then I'll upset my friends and family who want to share in my life with my children.
Did I misunderstand?
I said do you want conflict?
You can choose conflict or peace.
Two people are needed for an argument.
Two people are needed for conflict.
And two people are needed for drama.
She may be the insitager but if you choose to engage then it’s ok you:
There may be mucdeeper issues. But from everything you have written the answer to this conflict is plain as day.
Don’t post the photos.
If your family want to see photos create a private message group and post them there.
But if you are happy to have conflict and want to be right then just keep posting photos.
Your step kids then have to deal with you fuelling drama ontop of what sounds like a mum who starts drama.
Give them one adult in their life who acts like an adult.
I don't know why anyone is so casual about posting any pictures of their children on the internet, there are sooo many creeps out there. I rarely do and if I do I put it on my Instagram account which is private and has limited friends on there. Not hundreds literally 10. My life is not for public consumption I don't understand the need for it. Also the ex wife would not be invited, she can stay in her lane.
Let him post pics with his kids in and tag you.
Tell her to piss off. I'm sorry but you owe her nothing
I post pics of my stepkids all the time. Their mum and I get along so I know from her own mouth that it's all good 👍
So the ex says jump and everyone else asks 'how high?' . I don't think so
The responsible person acts out “I won’t engage in petty drama or pick insignificant battles that hurt the kids”
Can her actions stop the kids being involved in the conflict? Yes.
That’s the answer. Not what SHE should or shouldn’t be allowed to do.
How can SHE protect the kids using what ever is in HER power.
I'd tell the ex to pull her fucken head in. You had the permission of everyone in the picture so what's the problem? The ex is still trying to retain whatever little control she has left. If you bow down to her now, its game over. Congrats on everything else. I hope it goes well ❤
We use Facebook like millions of other people. It's our choice of platform.
I took the photos down and my partner reposted some on his account. He also got told to take them down because I am in them and I'm 'nothing' to the kids. Her words, not mine.
So in the end my asking was pointless anyway.
You should take them down. They're not adults yet. Until they are, she does have a say.
So I understand your points on respect and morals and in this case I will refrain from posting and my partner will have to but I believe this won't end when we're married either.
I don’t understand why Facebook is necessary for you to be able to share photos with your family. Surely you could email the photo directly to the people you want to share it with. A mass email to your own family is not that difficult if it saves an unnecessary argument over a silly social media post.
Both my husband and I don’t share any photos of our kids on fb at all, and we have family spread out everywhere. I don’t get the necessity of posting everything to Facebook.
She doesn’t want you posting photos of her kids on Facebook then don’t post photos of her kids on Facebook. You want to share photos with your family, then share the photos with your family, just not through Facebook. What’s the problem?
Sorry, but at the end of the day they are her children and not yours. Anything to do with them goes through your current partner and her first.
As many others have said to avoid conflict just don't post the pictures. People still have phone numbers these days, send your family the photos that way. Facebook is not essential to connect with people. It is merely a bragging vessel for most.
Looks to me you've painted a pretty picture and want validation about this, but if you are a truly mature adult you'll respect her wishes.
You sound like a really nice person OP and I wish you a lifetime of love and happiness. Yes. Bide your time..... for now. Once you're married, let loose and photo bomb the shit out of social media with pics of you, your husband and all your children 💜💜
How did she know you'd posted photos? You and your partner should have your settings so she can't see what you post.