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Should I forgive my partner for cheating?

Answered 2 years ago

We have three kids - and he hooked up with one of his exes when we were going through a bad patch. It has ended and he has been a great husband and father since... I love him - should I forgive him?


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2 years ago
No he will keep cheating. If you can accept this and pretend than do that but if you want something real then No.

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2 years ago
How long ago?

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2 years ago
I would ask him if he wants to make changes to your monogamy agreement. If he says yes find out what he wants if you can’t accept it then move on if he says no and isn’t lying than I would work with him.

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2 years ago
I couldn’t. It happened to me and I thought time would heal and it hasn’t .

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2 years ago
Not everything does

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2 years ago
That's a difficult one. Personally, I couldn't forgive or forget. I would constantly be wondering if he's cheating again while I'm home with the kids. Blaming it on a rough patch is a cop out. I mean, you didn't cheat. Going on what you wrote. He would really have to show me he was sorry and wouldn't do it again. But no, no, I couldn't still. But that's just me.
My brother forgave his wife for cheating on him, but he isn't happy. Staying together for the kids but the kids aren't happy either. Good dad yes, that's great! But good husband..Nope.

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2 years ago
What happens when you go through another rough patch?

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2 years ago
To me personally what makes it worse is it was one of his exes.. it just wasn’t some random chick.
I would be questioning if he still has feelings for her or not.
Try and work it out with him because in 5 years time you don’t want to look back thinking “why didn’t I try”. If you try and you just can’t get past it or I didn’t work out well girl at least you can say you tried!
Good luck!

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2 years ago
It's not really "should" you forgive him but really could you forgive him. Are you going to be able to move past it? What steps has he taken and is he willing to go through the work to get trust back?

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2 years ago
How long ago? Did you only just find out or did he confess straight away?

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2 years ago
Only you can decide on that. You can probably forgive. But can you forget to move forward?