Try to make things to look forward to doing together like a holiday. Always have a new happy thing for him to anticipate when the last thing like the holiday is over. Focusing on the negative and the past seems to make depression worse in my opinion.

Also try to make sure that you let lots of natural light inside and watch his diet. Being low in certain vitamins can make depression worse.

Can u organise some fun family activities that involve exercise? Make sure he's taking his meds and vitamins getting sleep. It's a chronic illness so it will rear it's ugly head unfortunately but sounds like he's got great support in you and some great protective factors. Maybe he needs a medication review and up the meds whilst he's got this stress going on. Look up support for carers for yourself hon as well there is stuff out there and you are a carer. And tell hubby that his life is like an old fashioned balancing scale with things that make him better on one side and things that make him worse on the other. When there are more worse things like the family stress you mention then he needs to do more on the other side to stay in balance or else the scales will tip. It's the self care stuff, fun stuff and self soothing stuff and supports on that side that needs to increase even when he doesn't feel like it. I work in mental health, my whole family has mental health issues and I do too. I see it as an illness to accept and manage like diabetes, we can still have a good life, just have to develop the awareness of what our triggers are, do our self care as prevention and soothe and seek help when we need it. But you do too hon as well xxx

Go live your life. Don't enable this behavior any longer. It is purely attention seeking and emotional abuse. People who are going to commit suicide don't talk about constantly they do it.

Does he actually go and seek professional help other than wellness / meditation. Yes you are his wife and supposed to be there for him, but try and think of it as though he had a physical ailment or pain. Should he go on about a pain or migraine to you for years, is that fair? Or does there come a point where he seeks professional help...this does not mean that you don't care or support him, that's what partners do - but you are also not purely here to be his rock and councillor. It's great that he talks to you about his feelings but needs an awareness that unloading your negative feelings on someone (even though you love him) can bring a darkness to you. You can support him but you also need to shield yourself from this a little and perhaps lighten the load by him off loading to a professional when he gets like this. When he gets these feelings, perhaps it's OK that he alerts you - but also sees someone. If he thinks professionals don't help, why does he then find it more conducive to tell this to you? If anything, giving you a break so you can solider on with your family is what is needed while he shares a little of the 'blah' with someone else. If he isn't open to this, I'd say he is more 'stuck' in a cycle of negativity where he feels miserable and somehow brings you down also, perhaps guilt over your head, controlling you, everyone on egg shells and mood being affected by him.

Electric shock therapy? There’s new trial with gut bacteria at Adelaide uni. Good luck xx

Mental illness is horrible. He is lucky to have you. You should also get support. No it's not true, people who always talk about killing themselves, don't do it. I had a friend who committed suicide and she told her family (after a couple of attempts) that she would kill eventually kill herself, and she did. She was schizophrenic. It devastated all who loved her, even now I say to myself (after 30 years) if only!!!!! She rang me up before she died, but I wasn't there, she left a message with my friend, saying "hope you are happy and have a great life"!!! Yes it is a cry for help, but it doesn't mean that they won't do it. Maybe when they do go very quiet and retreat, that is when to watch. Having a masters in psychology does not make you an expert, anyone can read a text book. Have a bit of empathy. I would not go and see you (the master psychology person) as you would obviously ignore what I was telling you. No-one knows what goes on in someones mind.

I understand where you are coming from, it's hard and can be emotionally draining. But I admire how you are there for your husband. And I am sure that he loves you even more for your support. Just don't forget to look after yourself.

Oh that sucks, I’m sorry you’re going through this. Have you sought professional help for yourself(without him) to deal with this and focus on yourself? I don’t know if it will ever get better, one doesn’t have a crystal ball but what does your gut tell you? Are you happy in the rest of the relationship or is this the one area?

He's enjoying wallowing in this.
Suck it up and take it in your stride without stressing your peers with the burden. Move on. He needs to put on his big boy panties, especially if he has kids.
Decide.

I have no advice but stay strong. I hope you are also getting help to deal with this. It wouldn’t be easy on you xx