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Work romance

Answered 2 years ago

Has anyone been involved in a work romance
Story: We are both managers. He has a gf i think. He never speaks of her or mentions her. But i know he has one from others..
Him and i have become close as we have have been working so closely together on some projects. He texts ne all the time. Some jokes, some work stuff. We never discuss our personal lives. We will talk about direct family only. I had a recent health scare, and he got so worried and i coukdnt talk to him as i was scared i would cry. He rang me several times and kept asking me to call him and i said i would call him later. The next day he didnt call until i texted him apologising for ignoring his calls. He said he felt terrible and i didnt need to apologise. He said dont call me by my first name as it makes me feel like im in trouble. Im confused.. does he like me romantically or as a friend and i shoukd leave it?


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2 years ago
I’m not against affairs but I wouldn’t do it at work. I think you need to tell him to back off. If you really do like him and am prepared to be a mistress one of you needs to be willing to change jobs.

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2 years ago
I guessing you've never been affected by an affair ...... it can take a long time to recover, if ever

You'll never understand the damage you've done to someone, until the same thing is done to you - Karma

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2 years ago
You're not against affairs?? Wow.

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2 years ago
“I’m not against affairs.” And this, folks, is precisely what is wrong with the world. Have some respect.

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2 years ago
Lots of people cheat, just do it respectfully.

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2 years ago
There's nothing respectful about cheating

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2 years ago
How does someone ‘respectfully cheat’?

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2 years ago
By not getting caught and putting yourself in risky situations. Such as doing it with a colleague. There is a higher chance of getting caught.

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2 years ago
OP, what are you thinking? I’m sure you are a kind, and intelligent woman normally but seriously, your judgement in this situation is really lacking. He has a girlfriend, it doesn’t matter if they are serious or not, it doesn’t matter if they are ‘on and off’. Stop making excuses. You know what the right thing to do is. Walk away. Karma is a real thing and if you cheat with him, it will come back to haunt you. What are you hoping to achieve by dating a man already in a relationship? Are you happy just being his ‘bit on the side’ and if so, for how long? Do you want him to leave her for you? What would deter him from cheating on you? Don’t be a fool. Walk away now and have some respect and kindness for yourself and his girlfriend.

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2 years ago
You are right. I need to leave it.
Thanks for the wake up call

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2 years ago
Want front row when it goes pear shaped

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2 years ago
No, just no. OP you are clearly not thinking properly. Can’t you find a single man to date????

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2 years ago
If he cheats on his girlfriend, he'll cheat on you too. What don't you get?

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2 years ago
It does sound like he is interested. But, DO NOT GO THERE! He has a girlfriend. He is not available. And yes I’m talking from experience. I had a year long relationship with a married man I worked with and it did not end well. Learn from my mistake and leave it!

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2 years ago
Op here: Really, what happened?

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2 years ago
He used me
Dumped me
Spread rumours
I quit

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2 years ago
^ op of this response, that wasn’t my post. Thanks to the person who answered for me, but it didn’t quite happen that way. So what happened..., his wife found out and confronted me. I admitted everything. And then ended things with him. Strangely, his wife and I became friends for a short while but it all became too weird and I ended up quitting my job and changing my number. Soon after that I met my husband, and we have been together 15 years. Person above me was right about the rumours at work and it was unpleasant and one of the reasons why I quit.

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2 years ago
^I like your story better than the impersonator 😉

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2 years ago
Seems like a recipe for disaster.....go for it. I'd start looking for a new job now though.

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2 years ago
Yuck. Do not ‘go for it’. Have some respect for yourself and find a decent man instead.

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2 years ago
She was being sarcastic

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2 years ago
^Even I got that 👍

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2 years ago
Umm....From the above behaviour I wouldn’t think he was interested at all?

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2 years ago
So you think he has a girlfriend but you’re still willing to pursue something??

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2 years ago
Well i dont know how serious they are, and from what i hear they r on and off
Im asking!
Obviously if he was serious he would mention her

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2 years ago
If he wasn't a dog he'd mention he had a girlfriend

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2 years ago
Hmm, he is a nice guy. Really lovely gentleman

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2 years ago
I'm sure he seemed that way to his girlfriend at first too.

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2 years ago
Gentlemen do not cheat

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2 years ago
Sorry OP but a gentleman doesn't persue other women when he is in a relationship. I dont mean to be rude but you need to grow up, and ask him about her. This is an absolute recipe for disaster

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2 years ago
He’s a narcissistic moron

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2 years ago
OP, he is not a gentleman. A gentleman would not cheat on his spouse. Grow up.

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2 years ago
Don't get your meat from the same place you get your bread.

A guy perusing other women when he already has a girlfriend is a slimball, regardless of how he's presenting himself to you, he is only showing you what he wants you to see. He's playing a game that will not end well. How will he behave when he gets tired of you?

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2 years ago
You’re walking into dangerous territory
He Will use you
Dump you
Spread rumours
You will have a nervous break down and become unemployed

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2 years ago
He's probably a "Darren"

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2 years ago
Who is that