I have two boys the same age and I work from home running my own comany. I was in the same situation feeling overwhelmed and couldn’t get on top of things.
I heard about block scheduling from a friendI watched it on you tube a lady named Jordan page. Dividing your day up by hour blocks helped me to get organised. Getting up at 6:30am helps. By 9:30am I have made the beds pack school lunches done a load of washing Load dishwasher Benchtop clean: clean lounge and made every one a cooked breakfast. Drop the kids off to school/daycare. I start my work at 9:30am. Try to knock out all those chores before 9:30 if you can, it makes a huge difference. Your nighttime evening routine becomes easier.
Get one person to shower/Bath and get the kids in their pyjamas and the other person tidy up from dinner.
Good luck.

I struggled with this same thing for a while. First I got the entire house completely cleaned. After that was all done- and that took a while: I broke the house up into 3 sections. 1- kids rooms and their bathroom 2- playroom, living room and kitchen 3- my bedroom and bathroom
Now every day I just rotate which section of the house I tidy up. That way each section gets some love every third day. I’ve started having my two older kids and my husband handle their own laundry. I do my laundry, the baby’s, towels and bedding. It’s made everything run much more smoothly.

On Sunday morning I clean for 2/3 hours, including all the weeks washing and hanging as I go.
My kids are 8, 7 and 5.
They clean their playroom once a week. They make their bed every morning. They hang their towels (or are reminded to lol) and are responsible for cloths going in the hamper too. So really I only clean the living room (which is only messed blankets and pillows.
The kitchen is the biggest mess in the house which I tidy most days. And still never seems completely clean lol. But it’s generally “clean”.
It helps hugely my kids have a playroom as that’s usually always a bit messy. Only clean on Sunday lol. And I might have been lucky but iv also been super strict with my kids not just dumping things. They have a school bag rack. They have dirty hampers, they have towel racks and iv never “done it” for them. As early as 3 years old they were made to come pick up dirty clothes left on the floor. Or wet towels.
I do have one child much much lazier than the other two and needs prodding more so or reminding.

It’s just routine, if I slack on the routine it ends up a mess.

Sounds like my home. I hired a cleaner 2 hours per week. Made a huge difference. I also clean up especially when I know someone’s coming over, maybe the mum’s you’re observing do the same.

Get hubby or your partner to help?

Definitely clean as you go and don't put too much pressure on yourself 💜

You need a routine!!
I have 3 girls and work and without my routine my house would be a mess.

I have a 7.5 yr old and 5month old both boys. All I can say is just do the best you can my 7 yr old started doing jobs at 6yr like cleaning his own room, putting away his folding. I do washing at night time usually after kids are asleep, my husband helps as well. Today I cleaned the car out while bub slept, re-organised 5 month olds cupboard, cleaned kitchen and folded a mountain of clothes. Yesterday survived a screaming 5month old and nothing else really. Do what you can with what the day brings you.

I hear you, I struggle everyday. The best thing I have found is routine and give everyone jobs, including your partner. We have started doing a house tidy first thing on the weekends to keep things turning over so it isn’t so overwhelming. I also have a cleaner that comes once a week to help me keep on top of things. It’s exhausting and overwhelming. There is a way to manage it, but nothing is perfect. We often have days where the house is an absolute mess, it’s a never ending cycle of clean and destroyed.

You need to establish a routine that works for you and stick to it. Keep your home clutter free and make sure everything you own has a place so when you and everyone in your family is looking for said thing or packing it away, they know where it is and it where it goes. Having a neat and tidy home takes effort but if you’re like me and can’t stand mess then it’s worth it.

I'm in the same boat. Itd be nice of hubby would get off his arse and notice dishes, washing and put in a bloody housework cameo.