You could supplement your childrens presents with a family present for charity. Maybe support a child in Cambodia going to school. You would want something where the children can see the impact if it is specifically to teach or consolidate an instinct for generosity and thinking of others.
That might offset the childrens presents for your husband.
I have always supported The Smith Family, as it really concerns me about Australian children missing out on opportunities.

I spoil my kids. I work hard, I spoil them, whether they deserve it or not.
Their step dad however, says they are ungrateful turds and deserve nothing, and he usually moans and moans about the gifts I give them, probably causes heaps of disagreements throughout the year because of it.
I personally believe that my husband is jealous of the kids because they aren't his, because my husband is more than happy to accept hugely expensive gifts from me!
But that's a whole different story.
Kids are only kids once and providing you haven't created self entitled little brats I don't see the issue with spoiling them providing it's not sending you into debt doing so.

I agree with those suggesting his issue may be more to do with the fact his upbringing may have put a sour taste in his mouth over Christmas.

Financial disagreements are hard to settle between couples, as long as you're reassuring him that you are not going into debt, or maybe agreeing to cut back a tiny bit without sacrificing xmas too much, I don't really have any helpful suggestions.

But no you aren't an asshole at all

To OP,
You doing great mamma..
Exactly, he do his. You do yours.

I had a time in my life where I was so careful When buying gifts for my only son due to I didn't earn money and didn't want to spoil my son with buying everything he crying for. Then, it was my upbringing from my dad. ( Dad didn't buy me any of birthday presents until I was 20. He save the money for me and brought a town house for me when I selected to uni. Then, my mum was the one who bought all the birthday presents and little things to create the memor). Then, my husband was one who once a week bring a toy for son until son started school. after all husband got a good salargy and he was so spoiled with presents when he was a child. Then, our life got changed with slowly walking towards to divorce. Now, I am buying small gifts more and more for my son to create memories while husband avoiding buying gifts. Once a while he will buy some expensive some thing like ipad or xbox ( so, husband also can use, play them) but no buying of toys, game boards, books for the past 4 years. ( library books ok)
So , in your case, I do understand both of you have your own values accordingly your up bringings. But most importantly one of you covering the needs of children, That making memories of their lives.
So, you can go ahead, make the Christmas and birthdays are some what special for your loved once. One day your children will be greatful for their beautiful memories and they will do to same for their children too, keeping the tradition.
Also,hope one day your husband will realize how many things he has lost in the life ..

If you have pointed out to him how he still spends the same or more during the year, especially on stuff from op shops that gets forgotten about, and his nice big things for himself, and he still doesn't change his attitude, maybe it is something to do with resentment of Christmas itself.
Maybe there was something in his past that really hurt him at Christmas, and the whole thing just turns him off. Something he cant fully express, but makes him fire up.
Reading through your responses to the comments, I do not think you are spending money carelessly. I did the same, loved seeing the looks on little faces, got them things they really wanted and valued. And that are getting handed down to the next generation now.
You do seem to have a big difference in your approaches to money, from your different backgrounds. I suspect its not resolvable, as for you both your approaches are very deep seated.
It might be worth writing out a list of some of the benefits to your approach, comparing and contrasting to his financial approach. And try and have a reasoned discussion rather than a "fight". And at a time of the year other than when Christmas is in full swing. Maybe frame it as a discussion of your overall financial approach. Aimed at developing mutual understanding, and mutual tolerance.
But I would not give in, you would resent not being able to share your much loved experiences from your childhood with your kids.
And you know if your kids are grateful, and generous to others. Ignore the troll comments.
Have you read Scott Papes books, The Barefoot Investor ones. He has some great advice for developing financially responsible and generous kids. That might give you some ideas to enhance their sense of financial responsibility and generosity going forward. Which may help hubby understand that you are not ruining them.

By giving your kids mountains of stuff at Christmas you are raising entitled brats. Your husband is right. It is better to give a few toys they wilk appreciate.

If you choose to buy your husband expensive gifts don't bitch and moan about how he is happy to accept it but doesn't buy you a present.

If they are good kids, aren't getting 'spoiled' by it, then why shouldn't they have a magical Christmas? Enjoy those excited faces on the day and have a lovely Christmas.

I can understand both sides of this argument. You should be able to spoil your kids, I most certainly love spoiling mine, but you also need to be mindful of your partner's feelings (as he should be of yours). Perhaps there is a middle ground to aim for.

I spoil my kids too, lots of people do. I don’t talk about it because it’s nobody’s business.

Nope you're not an ass hole!!

I’m on the fence too...I think it is the content that counts, are you just buying them the entire collectable set sort of thing, where most would get one item, or are you buying them a quality item(obviously those are extreme examples) but you know what I mean. I think spoiling them is all relative and moderation is also very important in today’s world. Because you have doesn’t mean that you should, and I do think of others at this time. It’s wonderful that you out so much effort in, but don’t confuse that for making your kids feel loved and valued... every child deserves this

Devils advocate (though one off Xmas presents I don’t think are going to greatly impact whether a kid is badly spoilt or not cause it’s an overall approach)

- when the kids grow up are they going to feel bad they can’t provide the same memories?
- do material things really matter that much?