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Moved out to the country?

Has anyone moved to the country and I mean real rural country and it’s been either the best or worst decision they have ever made? Moving with your husband and kids or even single? Would love to hear stories

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It really depends on the town. I grew up 10 mins outside of a small country town (a post office, bakery, butcher, 2 grocers, hardware store, 2 petrol stations and 3 pubs) and the sense of community was awesome. It was a little gossipy as with all small towns but very friendly in general and just a real sense that we all had each other's back.
I moved to the city for 10 years and hubby and I decided we wanted a more slow peaceful life for the kids with lots of space and "greener grass". We moved to a little town about an hour out of the city (a post office, a general store/takeaway and a pub).
I wouldn't say it was the worst decision of our lives (because we learnt a lot of lessons) but we did absolutely hate it. It was so unbelievably bitchy and gossipy - I've never met more immature, petty and bitchy women in my life.
I would go to collect the mail from the post box and when I opened the box I'd hear the women on the other side (the queen bee and her group all worked together there) bitching about whoever just walked out - every single time.
The school was rough as hell (so much so that when we moved away and my daughter had her first day at her new school she ran out and said "mum! No one even hurt me once!"), we were "weird" because we don't drink much and the neighbors didn't have much to do with us after they found that out because the only way they socialised was by getting absolutely hammered together.
There were a lot of bogans but there were also a lot of just "country" people who seemed really lovely but once you got to know everyone they were all just really bitchy and miserable and alcoholics (but the women weren't alcoholics because they drank wine, which is fancy, so that doesn't count apparently).
I found myself having to dress down because I realised we had a reputation as rich snobs (later found out we got that rep just because we built our brand new house - which was pretty modest, plain but 4 bdr - and had a brand new car - a work car).
Didn't matter how nice I was, how helpful or friendly I tried to be, once the queen bee didn't like me (which was from the start) that was it, the main group of women wouldn't say boo to us - just smirk as I walked past. Their kids even started being rude to us and the mums would just stand there and giggle.
I think they were all just really bored and because they worked at the post office they knew everyone's business and it made them feel like they were really important.

We also hated being so far from everything. There was nothing to do. I missed being able to duck down to a cafe and grab a coffee with someone just to get out of the house. Or taking the kids to the park.

We lasted 2 years and sold up. We'd never in a million years consider living in the country again. It just wasn't for us.

I think to make a move to the country successful you need to be sure of the types of people there so you can make lots of friends. If you don't have friends to visit then you really don't have any reason to leave the house (apart from work, if you work) because everything is to far away to warrant a trip to do anything. But I guess that would also depend on the location. If you lived near a lake or river at least you could go fishing/swimming etc.

Like I said, I think it really depends on which town you go to.

My advice would be
- don't go somewhere TOO small
- go somewhere that has recreational spaces (swimming/fishing/parks/bush walking)
- spend some time in the town on holiday a few times first and get to know the types of people there. Are they people you click with? Do you have things in common? Do you have the same drinking habits (lol)? How do people spend their time there?

Moved 1 hour away to the country. we have 6 acres. I built my house,( I was single), and met my husband a couple of weeks before the house was finshed.
We both love the quiet, and heaps of space around that we have. The kids love it, much better than living with really close neighbors.

Real rural as in on your own property or to a town?

 As in actual country where they only have the small country towns and not close to the city.
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 I have lived in small towns for the last 20 years and prefer it to the city, but they do have a lot of cons. They are all different. I spent 12 years in a small town that didn't have a hospital, one supermarket, 2 pubs a fuel station, a post office and a bakery. Everything else was 3 hours away. You couldn't just go and buy a pair of shoes or an extra blanket in winter, pair of socks or undies. Stinking hot for 9 months of the year. You realise how much society rely on trucks when you live in a small town because if something happens to the road your town goes without fresh food, no mail, can't even do a blood test. But I love the community spirit and everyones individual personality just make up the towns vibe. You always find the nutters in small towns but they make it what it is. Its great for the kids too because they can still be kids in the bush. You can let them walk to their mates or ride bikes up and down the street without worrying.
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We moved to Wallan in Victoria the worst decision we have ever made!!! Middle of nowhere and nothing to do. Luckily we moved back home after a year 😊

I live in the country, I love the city but not to live in.
There are tons of pros and cons, There are mininal places to eat out, the shopping is terrible, our closest kmart is 3 hours away 😞 we tend to go on holidays as much as we can afford to for a change of scenery, it can be boring if you don't feel like doing anything outsldoorsy or the weather doesn't allow you to, job oppurtunities are far more limited if you need new employment, the hospital here doesn't do a lot of things which means staying (and paying) in the city of any of the kids need a hospital stay, there are lots of negatives but also tonnes of positives.
Have you spent much time in the country? If not you probably should before making such a life changing leap.