What’s next?
Answered 4 years ago
So long story short, my partner and I have been together for 8 years. For the past two years I feel like our relationship isn’t going great and I feel like it’s one sided. I love him so much and want to be with him but he just doesn’t give me anything! We barely argue and he helps me with the kids..
He barely talks to me, only when it’s regarding our kids or home? Or only when he wants to talk about something. Every time I try to have a conversation with him like just wanting to know how his day was I get shut down or he replies with small talk but most of the time he ignores me. He only hugs/cuddles me when I ask him, but lately when he does my heart just aches cause it doesn’t feel genuine but it feels like he’s forcing himself. So I stopped asking. Only time he wants to is when he wants sex..
I’ve confronted him a handful of times asking him how does he feel, I’ve told him how I feel.. he always apologises and starts acting as if everything is okay for a couple days then things go right back to how they were.
but last night was literally the tip of the ice burg for me 😭 he said to me “You’ve talked about this so many times it’s starting to be annoying”.
Where do I go from here? I feel stuck. I’ve never done anything to hurt him, I take care of our house and kids and help with bills. My partner and kids have always been my first priority.
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Since this post my partner and I worked things out and all is good, I tend to overthink all the time. He’s been opening up more he mostly was just always exhausted from work
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Or maybe he's just so comfortable with his life now he doesn't see it is an issue.
But if you're unhappy you need to decide if you want to work on yourself, the marriage, or if you even want to stay.
However maybe you need to do some things for you, make friends, hobbies, gym etc. Things that will help fulfill you so you're not relying on your husband to fulfill everything.. If that makes sense? I'm not great with words lol
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You definitely are right, over the period of making this post my partner and I sat down and had a chat... he said that he’s never had a problem and that I was over thinking things and reassured me that everythin
I’d love to do things for myself but with hubby working long hours a day I always leave him be once he gets home, let him rest. I have so many family members but unfortunately none that want to help so I don’t ask.. my kids are only 2&3 so I only get me time when they are asleep 😌