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My partner has a high sex drive

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My partner would have sex every night and every morning if he could. When we first got together we did but as time has gone on I'm happy to have sex before bed but I'm not a morning person and most likely will say no now. He was ok with this but would rub his hands on me and touch me while he wanked. I've now asked him not to as it woke me.
But now, I have no problem with him wanking but when he does it next to me the movement wakes me and keeps me awake.
Am I being unreasonable to ask him to do it elsewhere? I need my sleep. I'm not ready to be woken at 5am. Would it be ok to ask him to go to the bathroom?


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2 years ago
Consider yourself lucky :-)

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2 years ago
Why should I consider myself lucky? I'm assuming you wrote that because you're not happy with how much sex you're getting?
I absolutely consider myself lucky to have found a man who makes me happy and loves me but I'm still not understanding how you're comment adds any value to my situation.

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2 years ago
Get your point of view but he might just start feeling more and more rejected the more you set more rules

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2 years ago
Thanks. I feel it would be unreasonable of him to feel rejected (although feelings are feelings) because we have sex at least 5-6 a week.

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2 years ago
His feelings are not more important than hers though.

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2 years ago
What is he using to clean himself up with every single morning? Surely he can toddle off to the bathroom instead of waking you up and making a mess!

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2 years ago
He goes and has a shower after.

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2 years ago
I hate that rocking bed motion while you're trying to sleep! Tell him to shower and do it!

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2 years ago
I'm so tired from being woken up again by it. I'm not sure he even knows he's doing it.

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2 years ago
I think being a guy with a huge sex drive myself that it’s more about managing expectations and communication in a way to minimise rejection. Does he know about what you have communicated (sleep disruption etc). I mean saying to him “I don’t mind that you wank at all, your sex drive is amazing to you and that I love to enjoy when I have the energy, but it keeps me awake when you wank next to me, where else could you wank that you will enjoy?”

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2 years ago
I have spoken to him about the morning sex bit not yet about the wanking. I will try my best to minimize any feelings of rejection he may have. Thanks

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2 years ago
I’m a high level libido female and by the sounds of it you have a fairly good mid point. I liked the mans comment above but I would also explain you need your sleep so you can get through the day and still have energy left for him. Women need much more sleep than men.

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2 years ago
Good point. We do, well I do! Thanks

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2 years ago
I knew him in the balls - by accidentally of course 😂

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2 years ago
* sorry knee

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2 years ago
So he is getting laid every night and still needs to wank in the morning? Woah.
I'd be the same, go to the bathroom to do it. Maybe send him some pics of you if you don't mind and tell him to use the bathroom. That's a big sex drive he has.

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2 years ago
Yes a huge sex drive. I thought it was just because we were in that crazy about eachother stage but now I realize that's him. I love him and enjoy our sex but I definitely dont want morning sex unless it's a lazy weekend morning.