My Husband is a selfish lover
Answered 6 months ago
First off, we only ever have sex if he's hungover or has a few drinks in him, which of course does wonders for my self confidence.
There is zero foreplay, at all. He doesn't go down on me, doesn't kiss me, doesn't put his hands on my body or my breasts.
As long as he cums, he's happy. The other night during sex I begged him to spoon me, it's my favourite position. But nope, he just went straight to getting me to put my legs up because that makes him cum. If I say something he says to me "you've got a dildo, use it"
I feel like I'm going to explode, I just can't take it anymore. I have no idea how to masturbate. I try texting him sexy things, but he deliberately plays dumb. I'm 35 and I feel like my life is wasting away, but I can't break up my kids happy family just because I need a decent fuck.
All I think about is foreplay and good, passionate sex. I'm not even sure what exactly I'm asking, I just need to vent and read some advice
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If he is that awful to you re sex and intimacy then I'm positive there are many other ways he isn't good to you.
A man CAN be a great father.......doesn't mean he has to be YOUR husband.
I promise you there is a person out there that will be SOOOO excited to come home to you everyday, won't WANT to take their hands off of you even while you wash dishes or cook or whatever!!. It's the BEST feeling in the world when you have someone who is genuinely excited about YOU!. And you deserve that too!!
If he wants sex, say to him 'youve got a hand, use it'.
If I messaged him say when he's active on Facebook he just swipes it off and never reads it. It could go as 'unseen' for days. Things like deliberately ruining my Mother's Day but he had a great Father's Day, huge camping trip planned for his 40th and spends heaps of money on it, but he complained so much about me wanting to get my nails done I just didn't do it.
I guess I'm very financially dependant on him, he works and supports me staying home.
For all his faults he's a good Dad, just a shitty Husband.
Don't put out unless its for quality, it's not complicated.
This is going to sound incredibly insensitive but sometimes tough love can go a long way and I'm not saying it to be a bitch but if you are going to let yourself rely on a selfish person then they are going to take advantage of you. You need to step up and do shit for yourself girlfriend. Fuck what he does or thinks, just go ahead and do what you want. You have to step the fuck up dude. Stop being a little pussy to this selfish prick and go get your damn nails done!
I appreciate your words.
I'm thinking of putting my girls in a bedroom together and making my own room, anything has to be better than sleeping next to someone like this.
They definitely don't see what else goes on